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I almost never even downvote because it’s an active choice to push down someone’s opinion.
You are right, it could be easier to try and get some kind of a basic connection again, but the problem will still be there… And you will have to figure it out.
But if you use that connection to remember what you like about eachother, it will make that hard conversation easier, unless your boyfriend gets angry and feels trapped and cornered. But I don’t see how you can solve anything without talking about what’s going on, and sooner rather than later. :)
But it’s hard to give advice about this. People are so different and when I read your words, I have imaginary people in my head since I don’t know you guys. :) But I wish you luck anyway!
But we need a place to discuss and vent.
It’s nice that you are trying to do the right thing, but you guys really got that Reddit vibe here, where moderators “allow” things instead of “serving” the communities.
But maybe others will like this post more. I like the initiative and trying to talk to users in a mature way.
He is tired of you but doesn’t have the courage to leave the relationship. Its pretty typical.
If you changed your appearence in the last 3 years and maybe put on extra weight, that could absolutely be a factor too.
He is listening to music to avoid the talk. Because he knows that discussion may tear the relationship apart, and he doesn’t want to be alone (just guessing). Or he wants to be alone but is too “nice” to tell you that he wants out. Also the third behavior, to act as if everything is fine, is about avoiding the big talk.
Obviously everything is not fine and you need to have that serious talk, and if you don’t get honest answers, you should break up with him.
He could still love you, but could be that he is not attracted to you anymore, and he feels ashamed about that too. I don’t know. Just talk.
If he is not going to be honest, you can’t fix the problem. You are doing more then your part in trying to understand and fix it. He must too.
People did this to themselves.
Unless we see some kind of regulation, today’s big tech is tomorrow’s big brother.
I don’t know which people you are talking about, but if it’s adults and you are a kid, then there are some reasons behind that… :)
My kid planned a trip to Croatia with his friends and they managed to book flights that made them spend the entire night at airports, because they wanted the cheapest price.
Counting in that they had to buy airport food and hardly slept at all, and came home wrecked and had to sleep all day, meant that not only did they pay more for the trip than directs flights would have cost, they also lost a day when getting back to sleep and rest…
I mean, it’s fine, but it shows inexperience and unwillingness to listen to adults who may have good ideas… :)
I thought it was great but I think older people like it more. It wasnt about something happening every 30 seconds, so if you like movies that throw action in your face, this will seem slow.
Characters also felt real and had real emotions that made sense in that situation.
What is smart… I mean, most of us Lemmy tech people are good at computers but completely useless and may even despise other activities such as dancing, singing, acting, psychology, and so on.
Never forget that the school system evaluates how good of a worker you can be, not how good of a human you can be. The entire system is just built for economic growth, not your happiness. In fact, you consume more when you are feeling like shit.
A bit of a side note, I know, but it’s all connected to a bigger picture, so…