NudistWardrobe
One is my primary partner (we’re non-monogamous), and one is a regular FWB. The third was a one-time thing with an old friend.
Basically I had a chance to meet with my old friend and she had always wanted to have sex, so we did. My FWB gets really turned on when I mess around with other people, so when I told her, she wanted some too. And later that night I think my primary partner just wanted to assert dominance over the other girls, so we did it again…
At any rate, it was exciting, fulfilling, and exhausting.
Having sex with 3 different women in 24 hours. It was an amazing experience but both physically and emotionally exhausting.
Your situation sounds a lot like mine - been together for 13 years, but we’re both introverted and have found that dating apps aren’t actually all that effective. This means we’re essentially monogamous despite the desire to expand our relationships.
As far as including people “fairly” is concerned, it’s important to remember that one of the best parts of polyamory is that any one person does not have to be your “soulmate”. They may have their own reasons for joining such an arrangement (maybe they don’t WANT the pressure of being a primary!)
There are 8 billion people in the world. Surely there’s somebody out there that fits the description you’re looking for… It’s simply a matter of finding them. Forums like this are probably a good place to start… I’ve been meaning to post here to see if there are any people in a similar situation and apparently there are!
Ooba is good but kind of technical. I’d instead recommend kobold.cpp for less savvy users who just want things to work. Just download the single exe (no install required) and download a model, then load it up and go!