businessfish
vegan, linux evangelist, mario 64 speedrunner, hiker, food enjoyer
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awesome! i really like the pattern and color choices
i know exactly what you mean about romance evading definition lol. i don’t understand how allos survive when navigating the world based on vibes and “you’ll know it when you feel it / meet the right person”, it seems way to uncertain for me. i just looked through a lot of the ace/aro resources i know and couldn’t find a good definition on romance, just that aros experience a lack of it…
unfortunately, i don’t have a better answer for you except that maybe defining romance doesn’t matter all that much? i think getting to know where you fit in the queer label soup can be comforting, but if you’re struggling with finding the words that much it might benefit you more to just say fuck it and try to find others who want to live like you do using the words you already know.
having said that i’m currently struggling with meeting other similarly minded folk and am just banking on my current friends maintaining the our current relationship for all time, so don’t take my words as gospel. i wish you well in your endeavors.
yeah my thoughts are a little different than the op a year later - still love the game but oatchi is basically a “win game” button. i also think the enemy variety is pretty lacking and i wish there were more monsters instead of big blue colored bulborb. i was also disappointed with all the cool upgrades being right at the end of the game where you have nothing to use them on.
lots of gripes about this one, but i still really enjoyed some of the large overworld areas and i think some of the later dandori challenges are amazing. i did also appreciate how you can get an onion for each pikmin type which got rid of any dread i acquired from having to go farm purples for the doomsday apparatus in 2 because i played a few caves fast and loose. i’m still holding out hope that someone will make a mod that makes pikmin 4 more difficult (but still fun) in some way.
i had never heard of relationship anarchy before and i find it very interesting - i may one day bring up the idea to some of my current friends. it would be nice to not be cast to the wayside when they find romantic partners because like you said, i hate it when that happens lol. and it can be tough going solo in an amato and allo normative world.
as for QPRs, i think that might be a little bit beyond what i want out of friendship, but to relate it to what another commenter said: i would like to be close with friends slightly more than what many would consider “just friendship”, but definitely not romantic. the more i write and think about it the more i realize i just value my close friends and hope that they stay by my side for the foreseeable future. and heck, maybe even meet some new people too.
i really appreciate the points you brought up, they did help :)
that’s how i felt when i realized i was ace - like that feeling i’ve always had in the back of my head that i’m not like how people are “supposed” to be finally had a name. and that there are others like me and it is ok to be this way.
i think i fit pretty neatly into the aroace possibly agender circle (these days at least), but i understand what you mean about society not having words for me. i think a lot of the confusion etc i’ve felt around this over the years is just that - confusing a desire for friendship with one for a partner. i’ve considered looking for a QPR but realistically i just don’t think i have the patience for it.
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