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There’s that whole thing in “Dune” of “he who has the power to destroy a thing, rules that thing.” So yeah, we are in charge, even if we are fairly hands-off managers!

I’d agree with this! I’m actually going through a divorce right now. There are a lot of reasons for it, but several of them have to do with me masking too much in one way or another around my wife and eventually not being able to do that anymore. Needing a lot more time to myself than I was getting was one of those things. I’ve really enjoyed the fact that I’m getting that alone-time now. Ultimately, for a variety of reasons, I’m glad the marriage is ending, but I really do wish I had been honest with her about my needs much sooner.

Literally also going through a divorce with a kid and just got diagnosed. Pretty sure my wife is committed to 50:50 custody though. Still: solidarity.

I have this! Strobe lights in particular make me totally zone out.

Not sure if it’s as applicable to your particular situation, but I’ve found “acceptance and commitment therapy” (ACT) to be a particularly effective therapeutic approach for myself.

Will you list the results after a while? I want to see them, but don’t want to have to create an account on that site.

That’s encouraging to hear! I would eventually like to try for a stable relationship again, and I hope I can find someone who is OK with less “together time” than is typical. Congrats that you have!

It definitely did happen to me as well! But yeah, the evaluator keyed in on a few things that I wasn’t actually expecting them to. There are things you didn’t communicate, but intended to, and things you didn’t intend to communicate but probably did anyway.

In general, the “waiting period” was anxiety-producing for me. Just trying to not think about it was the best remedy!

then you are shouting at ghosts

Or, in the more field-specific terminology: zombies 😉

Nah, boring ones like these