i want to send private documents and things to someone, whats the best app in your opinion. needs to work on linux and other things too
Not exactly, nextcloud is more akin to Dropbox where as syncthing just keeps the folders in sync so if you delete or move a file out of the folder the file will be removed on the other machine(s).
But it is peer to peer so you can create a folder, copy your file in and someone else can sync with you using the unique code for your share. The whole thing is encrypted and nobody else can read or intercept the data and it also works great even if you need to interrupt and resume it later . when the transfer has completed if the recipient moves the file it will be deleted from the original folder on your machine. So thats why its best to create a copy to share.
You can do read only shares etc but the official docs go into more detail there