If not in appearances alone, which would be shallow (though appearance does matter to some fair degree to me at least all the same- it’s just not the end all be all, but attraction at least has to exist to get together with someone on my end) when choosing friends, partners, or associates, I don’t see how one could simply avoid quantifying people, in all the other categories. It’s literally necessary for survival, if nothing else- everyone judges others and acts accordingly. People shouldn’t be rating others on a number scale or whatever, but in regards to things that seriously matter (in particular in regards to behavior and beliefs) - there always has to be standards.

As I see it, there are good morals (or ones I agree with, anyways- I don’t think I’d say I believe in absolutes or “universal values” and all the reactionary garbage that comes with it, rather the opposite) and bad ones, for instance. There are people who are a waste of my time or excessive risk for countless other reasons. People who won’t interest me due to incompatibility for various reasons, etc. Perhaps (definitely) some of it is problematic and I’m aware of it and try to counteract it some, but then on the other hand some of it is if anything the opposite- the result of learning what I want to put up with, and the result of getting better about things and gaining if anything, an intolerance for shitty behavior.