I think I’ve settled on the latter. Disagreement is maybe best communicated by the absence of an upvote? And downvotes work best when they signal something that is just off base, and while not reportable, is not appreciated at a broad cultural level.
I LOVE Lemmy because it has the oldschool Reddit vibe where people will disagree and neither person is downvoting the other. They just have civil discussion. Much better!!
Enjoy while it lasts. It won’t be long before this place becomes exactly like Reddit. It’s already beginning to happen - especially when you talk about politics or politics-related stuff.