It’s really not the big effort you seem to think it is. If someone looks like a man to you, you refer to them with masculine pronouns and if they correct you, you apologize and go with the pronouns they prefer.
The point is that you don’t keep doing it when they tell you that you’re using the wrong pronouns.
meanwhile, i’ll be over here not caring what pronoun you use for me. see how easy that is?
Why do you think people should only care about what you care about and not care about the things you don’t care about?
You sound like you come from a position of privilege and have not been treated with the maliciousness and even violence trans people have to deal with on a daily basis.
I suppose asking you to put yourself in their shoes would be too much?
The system I am actually trying to dismantle is what is oppressing these people, not me. I have my sights set on the big targets and find the trans movement to be a divisive distraction. I have sympathy but it’s not really my battle. My battle is one that affects all of us, not just some of us.