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There are padded, even fuzzy, handcuffs. Zip ties are never going to be comfortable. The sign doesn’t say anything about consent, though. It merely specifies β€œmust.”

It’s not my bag, baby, so I know very little about that subculture… but FWIW β€œonly if your sub is cool with it” should be a universally understood given, right? In the β€œgoes without saying” way.

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It should go without saying, but unfortunately there’s a lot in the kink space that should go without saying, but still has to be said, over and and over, because a lot of people come into the scene via entry points like 50 Shades that are almost antithetical to the idea of safe consensual kink.

Also, fair warning, the β€œpadding” on most padded cuffs won’t do shit to stop them from digging in. Fabric compresses against metal, with the result that you still have an unyielding and relatively small point of contact. A good safe bondage knot will spread the point of restraint across several inches of skin, so the pressure at any one point is minimal.

Shibari You Can Use has some excellent guides to safe restraint, if you want to learn more.

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Shibari You Can Use has some excellent guides to safe restraint, if you want to learn more.

Ha, thanks. But no. I’m neither a sadist, nor a masochist; hurting or being hurt is the biggest turn-off for me.

To each their own.

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Tying and/or being tied up in itself has nothing to do with pain.

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