Different people have very different lives, so I’m interested to hear the range of replies.
Do you only get sexual in a monogamous relationship? Do you use ‘hookup apps’ or specialized apps? Do you meet people at events? Casual events, special-interest clubs, hobby clubs? Are you involved in a fetish community? Do your friendships become sexual? Do you party at dance clubs? Do you pay at a brothel? Do you get approached unexpectedly in public? Do you look for partners intentionally or do you meet partners incidentally?
I’m in an open relationship.
On a romantic level, she’s my only partner. We were in a large group of friends with shared hobbies. After several months, since we were close and I liked her, I asked her out for a drink, just the two of us, if she wanted.
If it’s for more than sex, I need to take time to meet people, know them, see if we have the same values, the same life projects, if there’s an alchemy between us.
On a purely sexual level, I go to gay saunas and I always find new partners there. Some of them have suggested meeting outside the sauna, for gay or swinger booty call, but I don’t want to take the risk of someone falling in love (me or them) when I’m already in a loving couple.