Different people have very different lives, so I’m interested to hear the range of replies.
Do you only get sexual in a monogamous relationship? Do you use ‘hookup apps’ or specialized apps? Do you meet people at events? Casual events, special-interest clubs, hobby clubs? Are you involved in a fetish community? Do your friendships become sexual? Do you party at dance clubs? Do you pay at a brothel? Do you get approached unexpectedly in public? Do you look for partners intentionally or do you meet partners incidentally?
Now? In bed.
But when we were swinging, SLS app was pretty good, for over-30 crowd anyway. And assuming you are looking for a couple or a man.
If looking at my whole life?
8 years hookups just with friends and acquaintances.
Then monogamous for 20 years, until 5 years of no sex then I got a lover and realized I wasn’t gonna make it celibate the rest of my life.
Then a couple years of drama, some swinging, etc.
Then I met my eventual husband, online. We had some years of swinging but for health reasons about 8 years monogamous now. I can do this easier with him because we fuck at least once a day, for a dozen years so far.