I fell for someone who lives in a different country. We met while he was passing through mine, and then he later changed some of his travel plans to come back and see me again.

We saw each other every single day for over a month, he met most of my friends, we went on trips together and overall he was very loving and did all kinds of things that made me feel like we had something that could last beyond a fling. He told me he would be back again.

His feelings changed not long after he went back home, and he only admitted it to me once I confronted him after noticing him become more and more distant over 2 months. He said he found it hard to stay emotionally invested in someone so far away.

I get that long distance is hard and that people’s feelings change. I just didn’t think he’d lose feelings for me so easily. It hurts more than ending a relationship that has slowly burned out over time, because I just can’t make sense of how quickly this happened. And I think a large part of why I got so attached is because I very rarely meet guys I’m genuinely interested in, let alone ones that treat me well.

Have any of you gone through something similar? If so, how did you cope with it? Was there anything that made it easier to accept, or do I just need to let time do its thing? I have a bunch of important things to finish this week and have already lost so much time crying lol.

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What you do?

You start getting into Linux, buy open source t shirts, grow a beard, listen to Stallman talks, and stop interacting with normies ever again. Only communicate through text travelling over open source technologies.

Make sure you spend enough hours in front of a keyboard to get a very pale skin color, reddish eyes and a rounded spine and neck. Pull down curtains so you see your screen better and avoid sunlight.

Drink lots of soda while sitting completely still so you gain fat and lose muscles.

I use Arch btw.

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She might not want to grow a beard.

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Girls can’t grow beards. But all genders can be heartbroken.

If you follow my advice you will not be heartbroken again. In fact, you won’t date anyone ever again, so you have lots of time to sharpen those skillz.

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I had to quit my job not long ago to recover from burnout, and for some reason I decided to start using Arch btw even though I’m a kind of a linux noob (maybe as a more acceptable form of self-harm) and spent the next month locked away to tinker with it.

My setup is pretty much complete now, so I guess I’ll just focus on growing a beard this time. Thanks for the great tips!

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Haha no problem. :) It’s a great distro. And you know the old joke…

  • How do you know someone is using arch?
  • They will tell you.

:)

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It’s a great distro

I’ll agree once I can figure out how to at least get my laptop suspend on idle. Why are there no clear docs on it???

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The beard has to extend to your neck. Very important.

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Cut a newbie some slack! No one told me I had to use Arch as my first distro, I started with Ubuntu. Couldn’t a 5 o’clock shadow suffice as a start?

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