Fortunately (or unfortunately) I have not had to play with a ‘that guy’ yet, but I love the stories about them.
That guy was our GM. He called when game was supposed to start and said he would be late. Then he called again half an hour later to say he was having car trouble. Then he called again an hour and a half later to say his car was being towed and he wouldn’t make it.
Then a girl we were all friends with tagged him and a bunch of her girlfriends in a photo album on Facebook. He was at a club one town over getting drunk with girls…
Which is fine. I understand a young, single guy getting a last minute invite to go clubbing with a bunch of girls and prioritizing that.
But man, we organized our lives so we could play his Rifts game that HE wanted to run. Then he stood us up and lied about where he was, then got busted lying about it, never apologized and the game never recovered. I spent a lot of time on that character.
Your story is worse but I hade one kinda similar. We have a guy that is normally 10-15 minutes late. Not a huge deal for us. We’re all friends outside of DnD and he’s there within reason but he’s the most likely to bow out and force a cancel.
Our DM confirms a week out then the couple days leading up. He’s late and I ask “what’s up?” In discord. He replies “I’m having an issue” with no follow up. We wait 20 minutes then I ask if we should call it and he said yes so we didn’t play after sitting there for an hour.
I talked with a mutual friend and she said he was fighting with his wife that night. I get that shit like that happens but it seems really reasonable to me to just say tonight’s not the night early and not make us wait an hour
