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Bad feel: when you realise (only because someone notified you) that a thing people were doing seemingly randomly, was actually a big important social cue

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And it has all kinds of implications and context and shit.

How the fuck am I supposed to tell what’s just people doing things at random and what’s a part of all-singing-all-dancing-shit-show the neurotypicals call “social norms”? Down with NTs.

Honestly while it’s really fucking annoying that refusal to participate could result in some silly neuronormo interpreting a completely innocuous action as an offense, and it can cut you off from social shit, I think it’s basically the only way. The same button never does the same thing twice. Screeching rn.

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magi [null/void]@hexbear.net
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How many people were flirting with us or just trying to be friends with us, and we were totally oblivious??

I would imagine quite a bit, can be hard to tell with NT people, though I generally can pick up quite a bit though I have had quite a few people just randomly ask me out or what not in the past so they can misread me being interested in them

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the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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misread me being interested in them

oh yeah 🤦

took me way too long to figure out that people were reading my natural cheer and enthusiasm as romantic interest instead of just the general interest I intended

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Yeah I get that a lot also funny because I’m ace and just my natural way of talking can be misread as flirtation or just because I’d listen to people talk about stuff lol people are weird

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