The memes make themselves
They see women as accessories, like a tie or jacket, and fundamentally less valuable than themselves.
I think this is partly driven by a mixture of misogyny and low self-esteem. A woman on equal footing might threaten their very fragile self worth.
So being a normal person would mean partial submission to a woman (because that’s just part of being in a relationship, you’re not always on top), but at the same time they feel the societal need for a woman, because only having sex makes them true men.
And it’s also the typical self-victimization of fascist Ideologies. Nazis are victims of the Jews, current fascists are victims of immigrants or Muslims, incels are victims of Chad Thundercock.
I think this is partly driven by a mixture of misogyny and low self-esteem
It’s also driven by isolation. There’s a reason there are so many incels out in the sticks. These guys have never been popular, so they locked themselves away, in a place where you already have to work to meet people. They basically never socially mature, and get all their human interaction on 4chan