I’m becoming more aware of the rest of my own body and its sensations, and I’d like to hear perspectives from the community: where when and how do you like to be touched? For simplicity let’s say only your partner’s hands.

For genital contact, I like when my partner grabs my penis at the base and squeezes hard. Something about the way the blood surges under their grip.

For other contact, it depends on gender. With men, I like the way a guy can squeeze my shoulders/arms. I think it’s a strength thing, with both our muscles flexing together. With women, it’s 100% when they grab the hair on the back of my head while I’m going down on them. It’s a very intimate moment of course, and I like how if I hit a spot just right with my tongue or nose that I immediately get feedback from her through her grip.