I can afford rent, groceries, and utility bills.

It’s when you can’t afford those things that the society based on force comes into focus with perfect clarity.

What is the force or violence I used to attain and maintain ownership of this property?

The force or violence is what is used to enforce the property rights that you purchased. If I went to your property right now and claimed it as my own and started using it, what would you do to stop me? What tools are available to you to prevent that? The deed of ownership to that property is just a proxy for the violence.