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Three different relationships. They ended because…

  1. …neither of us was mature enough to actually do what was necessary to stay together.
  2. …for the exact same reason as her friends consistently distance themselves from her: she’s entitled, irrational, and selfish.
  3. …what she actually wanted wasn’t a long-term relationship, just some emotional comfort. But both of us got a bit too excited with the relationship, so it lasted more than it should.
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#3 sounds interesting. What advice would you give to someone to figure out if they’re currently in a #3 situation or not?

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If you realise that the other person is just seeking emotional comfort, ask yourself “am I OK with this?”. If you are, it’s fine; if you aren’t, it’s better to break the relationship in a friendly way, and move on. Just don’t fool yourself by thinking that the relationship will last. (I wish that I did that. I didn’t. Living and learning, they say…)

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