Three different relationships. They ended because…
- …neither of us was mature enough to actually do what was necessary to stay together.
- …for the exact same reason as her friends consistently distance themselves from her: she’s entitled, irrational, and selfish.
- …what she actually wanted wasn’t a long-term relationship, just some emotional comfort. But both of us got a bit too excited with the relationship, so it lasted more than it should.
3 sounds interesting. What advice would you give to someone to figure out if they’re currently in a #3 situation or not?
If you realise that the other person is just seeking emotional comfort, ask yourself “am I OK with this?”. If you are, it’s fine; if you aren’t, it’s better to break the relationship in a friendly way, and move on. Just don’t fool yourself by thinking that the relationship will last. (I wish that I did that. I didn’t. Living and learning, they say…)