To provide examples for this romance subplot with this group, to help illustrate a real-table example:

In the case of our group, we’d established “mild flirting is okay, fade to black for anything sexual” I believe that every player at my table has a different sexuality, which is impressive for a group of strangers playing together for the first time, but everyone was comfortable with this.

This subplot began about 1.5 years after we started playing together (yes, we played weekly for 18 months and went from level 1 to level 7 - we do a lot of rp.) I approached my DM and said “I’m interested in exploring a romance subplot for Konsi, what would you be comfortable in?” and we talked out what we’d like to see, what we wouldn’t like to see, and for the DM I game some ideas for the kinds of personality/person Konsi would be interested in, and some expectations of how she’d react and behave around such a person - but left it up to the DM whether to introduce such a character at all, when to do it, and who she’d be.

Razira is very different to the image I had in my head, which was an Elven paladin of one of the really “paragon of justice” type gods, like torm or tyr or something.