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If someone's pronouns are any/all, what should I use or how should I determine how to refer to you and what pronouns to use?

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I want to be respectful but if they say they don’t care what pronouns I use for them, that feels like it puts the decision on me to choose what to call them and I guess I would probably default to “they” because choosing a gender for them feels weird… am I wrong?

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I’m in that box, I’m generally She/her, but I have friends who use he/him for me which I take as a compliment tbf from those people for various reasons. If a complete stranger started with a he/him I’d be bemused but not upset at all. I understand that’s not ‘standard’ but I’m genuinely not that bothered.

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