I personally am in a phenomenally stable polyamorous relationship. Iโve been married to my wife for 12 years, and she has had the same boyfriend for about half of that time. Itโs a really fulfilling arrangement for all of us in various ways. Weโre all genuinely happy and satisfied. Iโm kind of casually looking for a boyfriend of my own.
But I feel like I only hear negative stories about other poly experiences. Itโs always unstable people and situations. Itโs always two out of three people happy at most. Surely there are other success stories out there, and I just hear the disasters because theyโre more memorable and fun to tell. Does anyone else have or know a polyamory success story?
EDIT: This blew up a little while I was asleep. I promise Iโm at least reading every comment.
EDIT 2.0: ngl I did not expect the trope of polyamory to fix a struggling relationship would be so real. We did just the opposite and are both baffled. Donโt use volitility to fight the volitility.
Iโm mono myself, but itโs nice to read various experiences here of poly relationships.
I personally think iโm too selfish to survive in a poly environment though, and also Iโm not really that interesting of a person in general - preferring time alone mostly.
Poly requires a ton of trust and communication, so for me it would fall down quickly with the wrong kind of partner(s)โฆ especially as it takes me a while to trust others
I actually consider myself a selfish person. But I experience huge amounts of compersion. It makes me so happy when good things happen to the people I care about. Itโs selfish of me to want more than one partner and to revel in my wifeโs other relationship. But Iโll be damned if senseless or traditional moralizing is going to stop me from being or making people happy.
