The hell are you staying with her for? You’ve got one fucking life. Get yourself away from that toxicity and maybe you’ll find life isn’t that bad after all.
I agree with the sentiment but it is easier said than done - splitting finances, houses, assets, debts etc is a mahoosive pain in the arse, and may well be perceived as less of an evil than actually putting up with the daily shit.
Ultimately though I do agree, it doesn’t change without some fundamental movement - either recover what relationship you have with the wife, or start planning a 12 month strat to get your shit in order and pivot to a more single lifestyle for a while.
Good luck bro/broette. You got this, and we’re happy that you’re here.
Just choose a hobby and do that once or twice a week as your time. If she has any issues tell her to fuck off.
She’s not mean, she’s just indifferent and distant. An emotional wet blanket