I’m just going to share an experience by saying that I have a younger brother (not namedropping anything) and I have regarded him in most of my life in a neutral-leaning-negative light, he’s annoying sure, but he’s not like really shit, or at least, I had until he started calling me a “black person”, “blackie”, and “monkey” (which I’m pretty sure is often compared with to black people in a really dehumanizing light) just to get a rise out of me, which first of all, is not accurate at all (I’m Asian), and second, it sounds like he was being genuinely racist against Africans just to piss me the hell off, “at the very least he isn’t saying slurs” I thought to myself, months later, he recently started calling me the fucking N-word, really, really casually, just to piss me the fuck off, I don’t know if he’s being genuinely racist or just wanting to get a reaction out of me (I’m 75% sure it’s the latter), but even then, using slurs just to get a reaction out of someone is tasteless at best, and outright derogatory at worst.
I’m just curious if anyone else has experienced the same thing as me.
I think it would be more weird if they didn’t. Silbilings, in my experience, usually insult each other and latch on to whatever worst/tasteless thing they can find; “fatty”, “crippled”, etc. I’ve seen plenty of silbilings regularly say “I hate you” and “go die”.
Most* of those same silbilings grow up to be good friends later in life because there’s a difference between actual hate and just saying it all the time. That said, if the insults are actual spiteful hate, and not purely because of rivalry, then I’d say that’s rare and an actual problem. And I don’t think there’s a way to tell the difference over internet comments.
You can test it a little bit by saying something like “[Terrible Asian person] isn’t black”. If your silbiling thinks it’ll annoy you they’ll say “yeah they’re not”; which will at least tell you it’s not racism. However, if they think the opposite will annoy you then, yeah, they’re going to say “yeah they are” and it’ll still be unclear.
