(Male if it matters)
I don’t know if I’m reaching a new level of sexual maturity or what. Lately instead of looking at hardcore porn and furiously jerking off until I cum, I’m looking at no pics or lewd pics on Lemmy, and taking my time to feel as much of the sensations as I can. I’m finding that I don’t need to reach an orgasm to still feel pleasure and like I enjoyed myself. I’m not talking about edging - I don’t get that close. Just enjoying the good vibes.
Anyone else? Do you set expectations when you sit down to masturbate? Do you expect to achieve orgasm and get frustrated when you don’t?
I’ve been doing this too lately. I noticed that I love how horny I get after a few days without orgasm, so I started intentionally avoiding it. At the same time I realized how much my masturbation habits had been about getting rid of an urge more than experiencing pleasure. By avoiding porn and not expecting orgasm, I can focus more on enjoying the sensations.
For me it’s been fun to involve my partner in it too. Having sex or getting a blowjob without getting to cum can be so delightfully frustrating!