Sorry for making a big text and sorry for my English. Cheers to you even if you’re not reading it.

Very Slight TW

I’ll talk about compulsive scratching of some wounds/bruises I have

I’m a Brazilian from a big city, and I was accustomed to the Brazilian way of life. I recently went to the US to visit family and the sheer difference in purchasing power, quality of life, the humongous disparity between the US and Brazil are killing me. The US middle class is better off than the BR upper class by a big margin. I’m currently studying computer science in university, and my goal is to leave BR for somewhere ““better”” (take better with heavy quotes). Thing is, in BR there’s basically no university-grade job in my field and there’s basically almost no way of getting out if you don’t have experience in the field like me.

Recently, about 2 months ago, I’ve stopped taking my (light) anxiety meds because they’re expensive. My parents (I’m 20) can buy it no problem but my expenses weigh on me so much I just stopped it. I started to itch some tiny wounds in my legs and they got rather ugly, which is not as bad as an infection or something.

I was always worried about getting out of BR because I wanted a good professional life in which I could actually use the skills I got from uni, but in Brazil there’s basically nothing besides making websites and bugfixing banking software. I want to make graphics drivers, motherboard firmware, work with free and open source software, but there’s nothing here. And with nothing here, how do I get an opening to move to another country like Germany or the US? (countries I have family living in)

Seeing NYC compared to São Paulo, seeing the standards of living in person is driving me nuts. I’ll live a comparably miserable life, with a miserable job, with mental health issues, and I’ll never start a revolution. I’m giving up.

Do you have any words of advice for a young comrade? Thank you for reading thus far and sorry for being so incoherent.

Cheers from Delaware (and from São Paulo)

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You’re right. You will never start a revolution. A revolution starts with community.

It is good to have big dreams. Part of what makes surviving as a human being with aspirations in any society, capitalist or otherwise, so hard is coming to terms with the fact that life is largely random. Our lofty dreams will likely not materialize, not for lack of trying. But that’s ok. We have the capacity to keep dreaming both large and small.

To make any dreams achievable though, you have to care for yourself. Always put on your oxygen mask before helping others and all that. If the anxiety medication helps and your parents are willing to pay for it, then refill your prescription.

One thing at a time, comrade.

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