If you thought you were a true ally, maybe it’s time for some introspection.
not dating post-op trans women? sure, that’s pretty shitty
but not dating pre-op/non-op trans women isn’t transphobia, you can’t pick your sexuality
i hate this struggle session so much
that’s literally what everyone is talking about here in the comments rn
calling someone transphobic because they don’t want to date someone with genitals they’re not attracted to is idiotic as fuck and makes us look like lunatics, it’s not “preference”, it’s sexuality and it’s fixed
yes there’s straight men who are still attracted to women if they have a penis but that’s not the case for most
That’s a different argument and I agree with that. Some people like dick and can’t stand pussy others see it the other way around. I believe what OP is referring to is simply taking into account could you date a trans person if they fit every other standard you have, in which case it’s probably transphobic to say no to.