I swear I came across every other couple being exactly this when I lived in the US.
Being a white couple in middle America, can confirm. Plenty of raging racist chuds, but the majority (idk, 90+%) are more of lib who doesn’t realize their views are horrifically racist. From there it’s a crap shoot on if they’ll own it and try to improve if you call them out or if the weirdest shit you’ve ever heard starts coming out their mouths.
I got this guy who I see a couple times a year with his partner and we talk politics and religion. Conversations have gone from his sweaty r/atheist screed, next time we talk he says people don’t starve in America and Musk and Joe Rogan will fix things, next convo we talk gardening and his tobacco crop. Our latest conversation: the Greeks are a dirty and lazy people who are ruining the EU. Like, he goes off with every racist trope you can think of, against the Greeks… Also he joined us at a Bernie Sanders rally and volunteered for his campaign.
We don’t exactly send our best.
Knew a lesbian couple that was basically this. One was a wealthy liberal who had a weird fixation with eugenics and the other was from a small town in the South that loved finding an excuse to say slurs.
Was a hard truth for young me, learning that being queer doesn’t seem to grant people any sympathy or understanding for other oppressed people, and that gays can be absolutely every bit as atrocious as the straights™ can
Same for POC from the south. Some of the worst homophobia and transphobia I’ve experienced came from the mouths of POC Baptists and Envangelicals :/
