188 points

Letā€™s not start the cult of /r/nofap here. And no, you are not suddenly more charismatic and confident. You are just not reeking of cum all the time, something achievable with regular showers as well.

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102 points

No fap is retarded, but watching less porn isnā€™t. You can do pretty much anything you can imagine to excess.

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The no fap community is definitely overexxagarating the pros of not masturbating, but in itā€™s core they are supporting a healthy cause. Never been an r/nofap guys but they definitely helped me a bit to stop my porn addiction.

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18 points

You can masturbate without porn, also helps with imagination.

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11 points

Anything that practices self-control and self-discipline is usually a good thing.

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5 points

Nofap and celibacy cults are pretty toxic, but there is some virtue in self restraint.

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2 points

I can only speak for myself, but my mood tends to be better after a week or two without orgasm.

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85 points

If it just takes a month to break, itā€™s not an addiction. Itā€™s a habit.

Really hate the way that the word addiction is watered down by people who just look at porn a lot.

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25 points

To be fair, everyone handles habits and addictions differently.

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16 points

Iā€™d like to agree with you, but I donā€™t think there are fixed periods where stopping something turns it from being addiction into habit.

Addiction is an inability to stop using a substance or engaging in a behavior even though it may cause psychological or physical harm.

I think porn can come within that definition, just as much as smoking or drinking can be called a habit.

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And Iā€™m saying that whatā€™s described in the OP is a habit, not an addiction.

ā€˜Addictionā€™ is very overused when it comes to porn because people donā€™t have any concept of what addiction actually is. Half the time the harm doesnā€™t come from looking at porn, it comes from the purity culture that weā€™re inundated with in western society. Being abused by puritanical ideology does not make looking at porn an addiction. Neither does having a strong sex drive that makes us want to engage with sexual content.

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Porn addiction is real, and watching porn can have more harm than just puritanical bullshit. Most people that Iā€™ve watched looking at porn donā€™t just find a video a watch it start to finish. They watch multiple videos, fast forwarding to their favorite parts. Delayed gratification is good for you. Also, porn doesnā€™t accurately depict what sex is like. It can give you fucked up expectations of what sex should be.

If you watch so much porn that you canā€™t have an orgasm without watching it, if you are only aroused by porn that canā€™t exist in real life, if you stop having sex with a partner to instead only masturbate to porn, if you find yourself constantly watching porn even at inappropriate times, if the amount of porn you watch decreases your quality of lifeā€¦ Thatā€™s addiction.

I think that masturbating is healthy and good for human sexuality, but I think a lot of people could benefit from masturbating differently. Try reading or using your imagination or even just masturbating meditatively, focusing on sensations.

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Dude porn addiction is such a real thing. The damage comes in your relationship. Not being able to stop watching porn causes all kinds of issues in your day to day life including fatigue and erectile issues.

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And Iā€™m saying that whatā€™s described in the OP is a habit, not an addiction.

ā€˜Addictionā€™ is very overused when it comes to porn because people donā€™t have any concept of what addiction actually is. Half the time the harm doesnā€™t come from looking at porn, it comes from the purity culture that weā€™re inundated with in western society. Being abused by puritanical ideology does not make looking at porn an addiction. Neither does having a strong sex drive that makes us want to engage with sexual content.

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1 point

ā€œItā€™s just a heroin habit!ā€

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1 point

Didnā€™t take me more than a month to quit smoking, is that just a habit rather than a real addiction in your eyes?

Youā€™re going to have a tough time arguing that compulsive behavior that the individual has difficulty stopping and often performs when they otherwise didnā€™t intend to isnā€™t addiction, just because they found a way to stop.

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Again, Iā€™m not saying porn addiction doesnā€™t exist.

Iā€™m saying that the use of ā€˜addictionā€™ with porn is extremely overused and most people who claim to be addicted arenā€™t.

And for what itā€™s worth, I quit smoking after three years of up to 2 packs a day in a single day. Just made the decision and never craved them again. Every body handles substance dependencies differently. But porn addiction is different and the comparison is apples and oranges.

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82 points

Masturbating is good for you. Stop self harming.

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4 points

There havenā€™t been any studies to conclusively prove that this is the case but some correlation shows that nocturnal emmisions are lower in men who masturbate more. Probably more than likely this guy would have nutted in his sleep during that month of no fap.

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14 points

Literally prostate cancer research determines a 20% decrease in risk when ejaculating 21 times a month.

This isnā€™t 2016 anymore when the research was still going on.

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That citation abstract very clearly says ā€œcould linkā€ prostate cancer and biological processes and ā€œmay lowerā€ prostate cancer risk, itā€™s definitely not as clear cut as youā€™re making it sound. The paper itself isnā€™t even confident about the statements itā€™s making

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-23 points

satire?

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76 points

Nah itā€™s good for prostate health to masturbate at reasonable intervals

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26 points

Iā€™m glad you mentioned reasonable levels because like with anything, it can be harmful if done too often.

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4 points

What intervals, exactly?

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Iā€™m not taking a side, but unless thereā€™s some new evidence, virtually every study Iā€™ve seen is filled with little to no evidence this is true and sums up with something to the effect of ā€˜results uncertain, more research neededā€™.

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26 points

The Goonless

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22 points

Can they float tho?

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12 points

If you donā€™t masturbate, you become reimu?

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