Thank you very much! Know that I really appreciate your help, even if I can’t Thank you individually!
Addiction is so hard. It’s also so easy.
You just need a fucking purpose. Get into something that will consume you in a positive way.
Buy a nice backpack, and get into a group with some novice backpackers. If you find the right thing, weaning off addiction is kinda cake. If you don’t find the right thing, it’s impossible.
Hiking worked for me.
For me it came down to feeling seen within a group and feeling connected to that group through some higher purpose (hiking).
I quit smoking, because I started college again. It had been my dream for ever, to get a bachelor’s degree. Finally got the oppertunity to do it, so I convinced myself I couldn’t afford it if I didn’t quit smoking. I’m actually proud of that one and I’m not one who feels proud easily.
The hubbie used to smoke. When we got together, I informed him he gets smoke or me, and he put himself on a plan to quit and stuck to it. He still says he made the right decision, many years later. If he smokes I can smell it even days afterward, but it is one every six months, and he always eventually tells me about them, so in my opinion he kept his promise of quitting.
I recommend a sympathetic friend or quitting partner as the most effective method.
So what you’re actually suggesting is an ultimatum, not really sympathetic. You’re lucky he gave a fuck what you thought
He told me he wanted to quit, he quit, he is still happy he quit. He sees it as a positive. After watching my grandparents die slowly and painfully of smoke-caused cancer, I am glad he quit too. It improved his quality of life, and he is a happier, less angry person. But you can draw any conclusion you want.
Naltrexone and a change of scenery.
I used to smoke. Roommate and i quit at the same time and kept each other honest. It worked out really well and we’re both still grateful to each other a decade later.
