We are normally good at masking bc its expected of us but I am so tired of it. I’m so tired of having to pretend like I’m someone I’m not.
Then when we mess up and let our guard down or make a mistake and accidentally show people we are ND, we get dogpiled or yelled at. It sucks especially bc we sometimes don’t understand social mores, so even when we are confident that we are acting the way NTs expect us to, we can end up wrong and still get yelled at.
It’s awful bc we are never gonna create a more equitable society if we can’t have these types of conversations with NTs. We have to show them that bring ND isn’t an insult, but that’s when we get yelled at or made fun of.
I feel like federated-not-Reddit-thingle has gotten to a point where it’s really nasty sometimes :-\ People look for the worst possible interpretation (even in ND spaces like this??) and get by with just generally crappy “sit down and shut up” type behaviour, among other things. Idunno if the caring types just got bored and left, or maybe the novelty wore off and they’re just less active than the ones who wanna be hateful and cruel, or maybe they’ve all skittered off to beehaw or someplace that doesn’t even federate with instances I’m seeing some of this behaviour on (or maybe most/all? I haven’t really been paying attention to that)
Am really thinking I should join them; the content (and ability to downvote the awful, which makes me feel a little better even when I don’t have the time or energy to fully call out the problem) probably isn’t worth the awful.
Frustrations at not seeing things the same way and needing to find ways to compensate and fit in properly with people who don’t think/feel the same way are absolutely valid, but this “they’re targeting me for being neurodivergent” mentality is totally unfounded.
You’re being downvoted because you’re ascribing dickish internet behaviour to some sort of broad-based discrimination by neurotypical people against neurodivergent people. You encountered an asshole…”NTs vs NDs” is not a thing. Besides, how do you precisely define neurotypical, and why do you assume the world is run by them? (I actually assume the opposite is true) How do you know the person/people you were engaging with were neurotypical? Why would a world created by people who do not fit your definition of neurotypical be any better to live in? There is generally more variation of people and behaviours within, versus between, large populations.
Ignore it, friend. Nothing really matters except what matters to you.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I realized a long time ago that worrying about it is a waste of… everything.
Being online makes communication very simple (for good or for ill), but it also grants you magic powers: You can make people disappear forever at the tap of your finger.
You have more important shit to think about. I’m sure of it.
So… you want a world run run by the neurodivergent?
I suspect you’re getting downvoted because this post reeks of self-pity.
I assume this person is a minor.
I can’t imagine a scenario where another grown adult would yell at another grown adult for being nd. People just walk away, not confront.
Have you got a real world example that is not on the web/social media?
In my experience, the world is not run by NT folks, and if you’re being yelled at as an adult that person doing the yelling is certainly not NT.
As I’ve gotten older I have come to realise everyone is dealing with something, whether it’s a diagnosable condition or not. As an example my wife has anxiety with OCD thrown in, my daughter probably inherited both, my son has some ASD tendencies, my MIL is the biggest narcacist and a complete A-Hole, her partner is a functioning alcoholic with his own issues. Then my mum is likely got mild anxiety, as well as my little brother, older brother has anger issues as well as my father. All this is to say externally you would consider everyone I just mentioned NT, my wife is the only one that has been diagnosed with anything
Who the fuck is yelling at you? Just dump those assholes.
People yell at and don’t accept lots of people. You don’t have to hang out with those assholes
Grouping people together by some arbitrary trait and thinking of them as all the same, is wrong. Someone clearly treated you poorly and they were nurotypical. They were wrong for that, but it isn’t because they don’t have ADHD. They were just assholes. Assholes are come in all shapes and sizes.
