Why some men bully and hate on women who post here their own images? Specifically women who have a link in their bio.
As somebody who is not enjoying watching nor listening to ads, I understand that part, but we still get to see those beautiful/sexy photos/videos for free.
And even those women who post without any aggressive promotion, variety of content (not recycling the same photo in different sub-communities), not providing any links directly in their posts nor asking for anything and just enjoying being social, get attacked too. Why?
What has happened to live and let live? Why being so rude and disrespectful? I truly don’t get it.
I mean I have a theory, but I would hate to offend anyone, it’s just not in me to be disrespectful, so I keep it to myself for now.
That said, I also would like to acknowledge that vast majority of Lemmy NSWF members are awesome and many thanks to you all for building this fun community.
So I’m not one of those people but I think I get where they’re coming from.
The issue is one of quantity vs quality. Many of the most prolific OnlyFans posters make the same generic content and they post that content in every community they posibly can to hit the widest audience. It was really bad on reddit where they would post the same picture of their boobs in 15 different subreddits. So far that hasn’t been as much of an issue on Lemmy but I think people are woried that if it isn’t stopped early then it will start to be an issue and that is why they are targeting all OF posters. I get why OnlyFans posters do that though. OnlyFans is very competitive and very few people actually make any decent money off of it so if you want to make money on there then you need to market yourself agressively and you need to make your content generic enough to apeal to the widest audience.
On the other hand, if somebody is just posting their amateur content without any monetary goal then they don’t need to be concerned with marketability. Actual amateurs are free to be much more varied and to only post their content in communities where it actually applies. Sure, good verified amateur content is significantly more rare than professional OF content, but without all the professional OF spam it would be easier to find on here. A lot of people also don’t seem to understand the difference between someone who posts on OF as their job and someone who posts on OF because they were posting amateur content anyways so why not post on OF too and maybe make some extra money.
There’s also the fact that, like you said, people just don’t like being advertized to. That’s also probably the root of a lot of the hate.
Thank you for your valuable input and taking time to answer. Much appreciated.
I absolutely can see this aspect, as I have mentioned in my original post. Personally I also rather enjoy the community with social interactions that are more authentic and fun.
But this still leaves my question open, because women who do not engage in the practices you described and on contrary engage in building this community without any advertisment, but happen to have a link in their bio, are targeted too.
Now to clarify - I don’t think anyone should be targeted at all, subs can set the rules, we must follow them, and mods can warn and ban those who break them. And in all other cases - don’t like something then don’t look at it.
But it seems having a link in bio is enough to bring the hate on and this really is something I would love the haters to clarify- why?
But this still leaves my question open, because women who do not engage in the practices you described and on contrary engage in building this community without any advertisment, but happen to have a link in their bio, are targeted too.
The thing is that those people aren’t selectively targeting the “bad” OnlyFans users. They aren’t going through and reviewing peoples profiles in detail. They just see onlyfans and assume the worst.
But you have to make an effort to go to somebody’s profile and see the link.
If you just looking at the post and there is no link, nor mention and fun conversation is flowing in the comments, then why?
I want to get to the bottom of this 😆😆😆
Proof for your theory is the German gonewild community on Reddit. I commented about this here. They have a strict no ads policy. Even a link to onlyfans on your profile will result in a ban. When they enforced their policy some people left, but all in all the community is a divers place with a good amount of posts from all genders. My guess is: if you live somewhere, where the lack of money will not fuck you up that hard, it is easier to do things just for fun.
I’ve only been on here for a few days and gotten some weird hate comments. I know my look is not for most people and that is fine, but I’ve gotten more negative comments here than I ever did on Reddit in just a few days. It’s just weird that people rather spend more time looking at my pic they don’t like to post a negative comment. 🤷♀️
I’m truly sorry your experience with Lemmy is so negative. You look badass and beautiful, and I hope you don’t let this negativity get into you.
Nah, I’m secure in my self enough. It’s just weird behavior from immature people.
Yeah I’ve seen those comments and downvoted them. I’m sorry you have to deal with that crap. I for one haven’t been back to reddit since the protests began so I’m glad you are here! 😀
Yeah very weird. You can easily block people or groups who are following guidelines but who you don’t want to see posts! 😞
It’s honestly just self-defeating and stupid, even from an absolutely selfish perspective by men who do nothing but consume porn. Thinking about it: if you want amazing ladies to share amazing nudes, you need to create a positive environment. No matter what a woman looks like, she may have misgivings about sharing. So you have to make the environment a wall-to-wall positive, thankful, and respecting one. It’s basic math.
If it becomes a place where people get judged by their looks and then “win” or “lose” then guess what? No one’s going to fucking post.
I wish these kids would pull their heads out of their ass and get this. I learned it by observing the polyamorous communities I have encountered. There is, as a rule, zero shaming, and every woman is a queen. But then I think many of these twerps have never even had sex at all let alone figured out the dynamics of a sexually free community. Fucking kids.
100%. I replied to someone else with an apology. If I went to a painting forum and saw someone’s original painting I didn’t like but was otherwise on subject and was well executed I’m not gonna downvote or make a nasty comment. I don’t like certain art styles and that is fine but that doesn’t make it any less of a painting that should be shown off.
What really bothers me is, that people cannot just ignore posts they don’t like. If I choose to visit “All” or “local”, I have to be aware that not all posts will be to my liking. Why do people downvote an aesthetic male image in a community named “the male form”? Just ignore it, it will be over with a little swipe of your thumb.
There is one poster who provides a lot of content. They have a body who does not fit into todays mainstream beauty standards. Their photos are well made and you can see the effort they put into them. Does it fit my taste? No. Do I have to downvote it? Nope, because it fits into the general idea of this platform.
This is not your personal porn stache people.
Rant over 🫳🎤
There’s a whole bunch of communities that just isn’t my taste. Know what I do? Just block those communities. Bam, done, and I never have to think of it again. Or individual users, etc.
Don’t understand why that’s so difficult instead of spreading hate for no reason, or downvoting something that fits the /c/.
It takes multiple clicks and keystrokes to leave a dickhead reply, which you may get an angry response to later, but just one swipe of the scroll wheel to make the content disappear and move on with your life. People need to put away childish things and learn that the world isn’t going to walk right up and cater to them. They need to put their time where it will make them happy.
I think it is a lack of maturity and misplaced sense of entitlement. I don’t know if it’s possible to block a user to keep them from being able to see or comment on your posts. That certainly would be a great feature. 😀
I’m sorry you ladies have to put up with so many idiots. I downvote them when I see them.
Thank you for being you.
Yes there is a block feature. I am not sure how it exactly works, but I would presume the blocked member is prevented from viewing and interacting.
But the question remains- why? I hope those brave keyboard warriors have enough courage to share their reasoning here.
I’d also recommend the reverse: if you think you’re seeing a lot of posts from someone you don’t want to see: BLOCK THAT POSTER. We have that power.
There are people I am not interested in that post constantly who are not even advertising an OF. I just block them. Nothing personal. Just me customizing my feed to my tastes. If you’ve ever spent time on a NSFW forum then you already know that people have different tastes.
I have no patience for little babies who think the entire site should change policies so that they don’t have to customize their feed to their tastes. Grow up, babies! Don’t skip thumb day: reach over and hit that block button!
I feel like the downvote arrow on lemmynsfw posts should be removed. For me it is a huge turnoff to see people downvoting other peoples original content to hell. It is a boner killer, and makes me feel disgusted at people’s entitlement and shit filled brains. I’m not into shit filled brains, take your hate and make a community around that kink so I can block it.
Honestly I’d be cool with that and an option by the poster to disable comments if they want. If someone wants to show their body off, let them. If it’s not a body I want to see I can scroll past it and say nothing like a normal, polite human being. If the OP wants to tolerate the comments, fine, but I don’t want anyone posting themselves and getting shamed/shit on for it.
I feel the downvote is still important for dealing with content posted to the wrong community and spam