If you thought you were a true ally, maybe it’s time for some introspection.
Post-op, sure. But as for pre-op, some people just don’t like dick. It’s a sad reality :transshork-sad:, but people are allowed to have preferences. The good news is that it seems to have gotten easier over the last decade. As a side note, this tweet is a great example of everything that makes Twitter toxic.
CW: transphobic violence
When people get killed for disclosing and people get killed for not disclosing what the fuck are you supposed to do, dating is hard enough as it is imagine your life is literally on the line when you hook up or start seeing someone romantically.
not dating post-op trans women? sure, that’s pretty shitty
but not dating pre-op/non-op trans women isn’t transphobia, you can’t pick your sexuality
i hate this struggle session so much
that’s literally what everyone is talking about here in the comments rn
calling someone transphobic because they don’t want to date someone with genitals they’re not attracted to is idiotic as fuck and makes us look like lunatics, it’s not “preference”, it’s sexuality and it’s fixed
yes there’s straight men who are still attracted to women if they have a penis but that’s not the case for most
That’s a different argument and I agree with that. Some people like dick and can’t stand pussy others see it the other way around. I believe what OP is referring to is simply taking into account could you date a trans person if they fit every other standard you have, in which case it’s probably transphobic to say no to.
As someone attracted to and has dated both trans women and cis women idk about this one. People can not help who they are attracted to
I would agree a straight dude who feels the bizarre need to LOUDLY DECLARE his lack of attraction to trans women is probably just expressing transphobia.
If it just genuinely the case a straight dude has never felt attraction to a trans woman and doubts they ever would, I mean whatever you can’t control who you’re attracted to. I’d say just yah know, keep that to yourself and if a trans woman ever does express attraction to you just politely say “thanks but no thanks”.
