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Today’s Ask PHlemmy: What is a habit you picked up from your parents?
Hugging. My father loved to cuddle with us (a lot, and that’s one of the reasons why I feel like I’m closer to my dad than to my mom), his sons, to the point where I subconsciously picked up that habit of his and now I feel so satisfied whenever I get a pillow to hug (not the usual hug, but rather the one with one of your legs above the side of the person you’re hugging).
Saying shhhh pag nakabagsak ka ng gamit.
It’s just so funny ung (silly) concept of removing all responsibility from you being the one na nakalaglag ng gamit by implying a shhh mo na ibang tao ung nakabagsak and hindi ikaw.
I’ve seen and heard this much from my parents to the point that i unwittingly do it from time to time (though I try to limit it).
I guess it’s the false sense of comfort you feel by convincing yourself na hindi ikaw ung nakabagsak ng gamit kaya lagi nila ginagawa un LMAO.
I feel validated and smart HAHAHA because of how my impressions of Oppenheimer line up with how Nolan spoke about it in this interview
This was pretty cool. Helps defuse tension.
How does one deal with demotivation to work or to do most things, other than just pass the time and stare at the nothingness and the lack of direction of one’s life? How does one regain the creative spark that was lost, the joy of life, the curiosity to learn and understand not just those around us but also within ourselves. How does one be "alive’?
Just leaving my random thoughts here.
Demotivation. Treat it as a normal thing. Capitalists just attached a negative connotation to it.
Just looking at what happened to the word ‘anomie’, ugh. I won’t even pretend to even have a slightest idea what that word means.
However, I take it to mean (as baseless as it could be) as “the individual has lost the will to participate in the wider society,” which begs the question: “Why?” How could it be that a number of people have simply gotten detached to the wider world around them? Some people could point to those people and say “they’re just being spoiled, selfish little brats who refuse to grow up,” while some others point to the society, the system as a whole having failed those people.
And for my personal opinion, “society” sees it fit to ignore and let those people be. That there’s some “better person out there” willing to be a cog. And if things don’t drastically change, “society” (and I mean, those who sit over the people), won’t even need people in the first place—with AI and machines making up for any lost productivity, or even more.
Sana nga society just lets them be, di ba? Based on experience, society forces people to conform. If they don’t conform, they might be seen as a threat for extermination. Society will use them as cautionary tales. And society lived happily ever after.
Well, iba-iba naman dahilan para mademotivate. Exag naman yung spoiled bratz image. Pwede naman they just don’t see a favorable future pursuing their current path. Pwede naman need lang magpahinga. Or may ibang issues na di maaddress dahil other matters consume too much resources. Iba din diskarte depende sa dahilan. Best pa din is to just chill muna.
On a more practical sense, someone once told me that discipline and habit is far more important than motivation once things are properly rolling. Motivation might be the spark that gotten things rolling, but it’s discipline and habit that keeps it going. (And that I ought to listen to that advice myself.)
However, in a more philosophical sense, I think accepting that you’ve lost your own spark and facing that very question “how does one be alive” with the intent of reigniting that lost spark is pretty much facing the absurd. That facing that question every waking day of one’s life, answering that question for every moment, is pretty much the point. Whether or not the answer makes sense (in the moment or otherwise) or not is irrelevant, because the value is not in the answer, but in the way we face it.
It could be that for today, I could face it by making a slight detour in my daily commute and allowing myself to get lost on the way home, for example. It could be that for some other day, just as an example, I could choose to face it by not wearing any underwear during a work zoom meeting, relishing on that danger of being exposed. Or it could be as trivial as making pancit by using spaghetti. Or making spaghetti by using pancit bihon. All trivial things in the big picture, but if it makes my day any little more tolerable, then so be it.
Kinilig ang frennies because I had a meet cute moment while we were out. I think masyadong romantiko ang mga kaluluwa nila because the moment didn’t really even register with me. Kung sila hopeless romantic siguro ako hopeless lang 😆 jk
Nako, ayaw ko maglagay ng meaning sa mga bagay-bagay sumasakit lang ulo ko. I’ll only allow myself to feel kilig kapag mukhang matino naman yung tao, napag-usapan na at may patutunguhan if it goes well. Hindi naman challenge pakiligin o magka feelings ako, it’s just a matter of compatibility and if it’s going to go somewhere.
It just be like that. We deserve people who will treat us right at pasasayahin tayo. I feel so grown up charot. Kapag napadaan ako sa timezone I shall practice my shooting zombies skill with composure. 🔫 maybe it’s an inner child thing, me and zombies