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That if I reach out for help before things get bad, they don’t get as bad for as long, and that it makes people happy that I reached out.

I’m not a burden, I’m a person.

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I’m not a burden, I’m a person.

Oh man. I FEEL this one. Personally still working on it, but it’s getting a little easier.

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I’ll always be working on it, but it helps to have those moments of hearing “I’m glad you called me” in my back pocket when hesitating.

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I’m still working on this, great advice!

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51 points

I am way better at everything I like to do since I stopped drinking all the time!

If you had asked me 2 years ago I would have said a couple of drinks makes everything easier lol

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Absolutely. I gave up drinking 2 years as well. I’m a better artist, musician, employee, husband, and father. Alcohol just sucks.

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I would have sworn to you that I couldn’t play guitar well without 2 bourbon and cokes first lol

Now I’m learning new techniques I would have considered to be way too difficult before!

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8 points

Same. I used to play shows wasted as hell. Sometimes I wouldn’t even remember playing that night. I was having fun and thought I sounded great! But truth is that I was sloppy and never really progressing my skills.

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32 points

I am immune to a lot of anaesthetics and painkillers. This was figured out after surgery.

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11 points

Ouch

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10 points

Yep. Changing my prescription today.

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5 points

If you have red hair, that might be the reason.

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4 points

Nope. Lots of gray, no red.

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The older I get, the more I want to be honest with people (without being a dick about it) and have them be more honest with me (ditto, non-dickishness).

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Being married, I find that, in order to not be a dick, sometimes just letting it go is better than honestly. I’ve learned that, even if my SO did something incredibly stupid, I don’t have to call everything out unless it’s affecting our lives negatively.

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17 points

Spouses can have a little stupid, as a treat.

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8 points

Gently and memorably put. My smile for the day.

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So true. That got a genuine laugh out of me

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Not even a couple of years after being a teenager, and I find being honest with myself and others to be one of the most rewarding things I can do. It just makes me very happy with everything.

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That reason I am angry so often is because I have anxiety.

Now this may be because I am oldish. But I grew up in world where anxiety and depression. all those things luckily existed but where associated with sadness or apathy.

So a lot of situations where I got anxiety, for example to be late or risk of asking stupid question I became really angry.

Making it extremely hard for people to deal with me because of the association was not something that was naturally occurring for people.

So last year I found an article about it and it honestly changed my life. I still get angry but now I can actually try healthy coping mechanisms instead of fighting anything.

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Do you by chance have a link to the article? I relate to your comment a lot so I might be in a similar situation

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