Up until I started working, I didn’t really encounter that question. When I did start working, people started asking me that question.
Them: Where are you from?
Me: Canada.
Them: Where are your grandparents from?
Me: Canada.
Them: Ok, where are your great grandparents from?
Me: Canada.
It’s irritating sometimes. I just want to exist, do my job and go home, like anyone else. Once is ok, twice is odd, three times is weird, and the fourth time is a pattern.
The only accent that I might have would probably be from Newfoundland, Canada, as I grew up with a lot of people from there. I also talk too fast sometimes.
Have you had similar experiences, and if so, how did you handle it? Can fast speech patterns cause this? Why do random people care so much?
Asking where you are from is pretty normal conversation, especially if you have a noticeable accent. Asking where your parents/grandparents/etc are from is less common. Are you by chance not-white? Sometimes these sorts of questions have a race element to them
Yeah, asking where someone’s from is completely normal but asking where their parents/family is from automatically sets off some racism red flags
This is often a proxy for a different question.
Well, if he’s from Canada (as I am, no hate!), the answer is “We get like 4 hours of sunlight per day here.” I wear shades to block the glare of my own reflection in the snow.
they’re trying to figure out your race or whatever
He says in another comment that he’s a white newfie, so, doubtful, unless he now lives in like, Kolkata. More likely, he has a slight accent or is just upset about small talk.
As a white guy myself, white all kinds of people constantly ask things like “where you from,” in the same cadence of “nice weather we’re having, huh?” It’s a part of getting to know people, what’s your name, where you from, what kind of music you into, etc. I don’t think they’re trying to find out if I am originally of Saxon or Angle stock, I think they’re just trying to make small talk.
I would agree with you in when they ask where you’re from. Once they start asking where your parents and grandparents are from they’re trying to figure out your race. I also agree with you as a white guy I don’t usually get extra probing but there are a few, mostly older, that are trying to figure out what specific type of white. It occasionally ends with a comment about how some group isn’t really white even though they have light skin.
If he’s white, as he says, and at least in my experience, nobody is trying to figure out our “race.” It’s “white” lol, nobody questions it. That and white to white nobody is ashamed to straight up say “what is your ancestry” because no white people (except maybe OP) get offended by it, they always just answer “mostly Irish with a bit of English” or “German, French, English” or “Serbian” or whatever, especially in a “melting pot” country like the US or CAN, so if they wanted to know they’d just ask, between white people that question (regarding ethnic background/ancestry) is as innocuous as “what’d you have for breakfast.”
I’m betting he has an accent, and they were asking where he was from but he gave an obviously cold/strange answer, and they didn’t know where to go from there. They should have just realized that OP was sort of hostile and doesn’t want to talk, and ended it there, yes, but they probably weren’t trying to be “racist” to someone who ostensibly is just “a white guy who says aboot, eh.”
Idk where you’re from, but in America the only people alive when that type of racism was prevalent are ~100yr old. Maybe some old WWII vets still hate the Italians, but mostly, even in my conservative southern location, nobody cares who the “real whites” are. I’ve even met and argued with actual racists who actually hate POCs and even they still accept all forms of “white,” even “white hispanic or latinos.”
if someone says something about the weather or my weekend I tell them I have to take a shit
Sounds like the correct answer to the question is Newfoundland, if it isn’t the accent it is probably some regional colloquialisms.
When someone asks me where I am from I normally say the city / province. I would never answer Canada while I was in Canada having the conversation.
Also some Newfies I’ve met have an odd mix of Irish/Scottish/Canadian accent that really threw me the first time I heard it.
I’m not from Canada (but within 1/2 day drive or less my whole life), but I think if the first answer I got was Canada, the next question I might ask would be what part/province?
They’re either making conversation or racist, depending on context. Answering the country you’re from if you’re currently in that country is pretty odd.
But that is the answer to the question. I’m not understanding the alternative. If the person wants to ask, “What race are you?” They should ask using those words.
I can’t recall a time ever needing to know anyone’s race. So I’ve never asked this question in 50 years, but perhaps one day? Idk, seems like a potentially insensitive question.
I don’t think being interested in the (ancestors’) race of a co-worker is necessary racist. I worked with people with all kinds of cultural backgrounds and it might be just an interesting topic to talk about. If someone has family in Iran, Senegal or Indonesia that’s definitely more interesting to me than a conversation about weather or last night’s football game.
Personally when someone asks me where I’m from, I respond in order of:
A) if I’m in my home city, I tell them the province I grew up in (because I came from a small town I would never expect anyone to know, if it was a big city I’d say that.)
B) If I’m away from my home city in my home province, I tell them my home city.
C) if I’m away from my home province, I tell them my home province.
D) if I’m away from Canada I’ll tell them I’m from Canada
E) if based on context it seems they’re asking about my ethnic background, I tell them I’m some kind of western/northern European mutt.
Now obviously I’m white as hell and no accent, but OP is saying they’re basically that as well, so I’m not sure why race would be the assumption for them either. I don’t even know how I would respond if i asked someone at work where they’re from and they answered Canada.
I think asking where someone is from is a pretty universal way to mean, “What ethnicity are you?”.
Usually, you can understand someone’s question based on the context. Your question, for example, “What race are you?” Is not specific enough. I could answer, “I’m not a race, I’m a person, but I enjoy competing in races.”
So just use context clues to understand a persons question and answer the question if you feel like it.
