Please feel free to share your stories of how certain little self-care rituals changed your life for the better and have made you proud you started doing them.
Allow yourself to be bored at times.
No social media, no YouTube, no music, no doom scrolling looking for content, don’t give yourself a task to complete, don’t start cleaning.
Be there, in the moment, with yourself.
Let your mind wander.
And if it wanders to some dark places confront that darkness. Don’t run away, don’t let it fester. Face those inner demons.
I find a good way to do this at first is to go somewhere surrounded by nature with little to no people.
I have a specific place I go to out in the local wilderness area that is incredibly hard to get to and very isolated.
You don’t have to go so far but it needs to be a place free from distractions.
I stopped using social media. Facebook was easy, just deleted it. Instagram was step by step, first I unfollowed all the pages that I don’t know personally. Then I only used the “Following” timeline. When I only had a new photo in my feed every other day, I realized that this platform had nothing to offer me. I left Twitter when Mr. X comes around and switched to Mastodon. And I don’t think I have to explain to anyone here why I no longer use Reddit…
Yeah, i know. But Lemmy don’t feel like Social Media to me… More like a Internet forum.
forms of electronic communication (such as websites for social networking and microblogging) through which users create online communities to share information, ideas, personal messages, and other content (such as videos)
Definition wise, it‘s clearly social media. I get it though, the corporate giants feel more rage bait-y due to the algorithms they employ.
I dont know if its “for men”, but im a man:
Consistent workout schedule - sering progress in strength, stamina and appearance is extremly good for me.
I claimed the kitchen - after work, i shop for dinner, then throw the family out of the kitchen and cook - nice me-time and makes you a better cook.
Talking to a therapist when i feel i need it and 20mg of citalopram per day for my depression.
1: Walking home from work, timing it to go throughthe park at twilight, right on the edge of dark when your colour vision goes on the fritz and the chrominance is greater than the luminance. The grass bleeds colour but not light in a weird un-glow, and somehow it’s always cool and extra quiet. Does a body good. You never get any time in the dark that isn’t sleeping, you realise that? You never just experience the dark, it’s lights full-blast until you turn your brain off, and then back to the glare when you get up again.
2: To that end: take a shower in the dark, preferably pitch dark if you can manage it. Work out in advance where the taps/soap/towel is, and just go through the whole process as you normally would. It’s… weirdly sensual, and deeply, deeply relaxing.
3: Brown noise and rain nose together. simplynoise.com now wants to sell you shit, and hell with that - but head over to https://onlinetonegenerator.com/noise.html and select Brown noise. In another tab, head over to rainymood.com. You’ll want decent headphones for this, earbuds won’t do it justice.
4: Going to nude beaches. Not to gawk at people (seriously terrible venue for that in every respect), but to just wander around, bollocks waving in the breeze, and nobody even blinks. Someone else wanders past, tits akimbo, and you don’t even blink. Nobody cares, we just aren’t doing that right now, and when your brain realizes this, it’s the equivalent of taking your boots off after a long day. No social mask, you aren’t maintaining a posture wrt other people, there’s no eyeline politics, you can just be, and oh my fucking god you didn’t know you needed this. Also, swimming naked is like showering without socks on by comparison - and when was the last time you got direct sunlight on your balls?
Some days I just need to get stoned and have a wank.
