Last year I was employed at a decent paying job with good benefits, doing work that mattered. Now I’m seven months unemployed, out of benefits and still getting ghosted by employers. Most everything else has remained the same (no friends, uncertainty with my gender and how I want to live my life, stuck living with my mom) except that I started seeing a therapist ~10 months ago who I really like.
It just feels really, really bad. I’m assuming other people have had this experience in their life already (I am both fairly young and a late bloomer in most respects), so I guess I’m asking how you dealt with it and how things got better, assuming they did :aware:
you can also commiserate with me if you like
thanks gamers
As a person who goes through this every year… I have learned to just wait for next year. Things’ll be a bit worse than that they were before.
I don’t know if my brain completely broke or I just got too tired to be as stressed out as I used to get but I’ve gotten surprisingly… calm at the reality of my situation.
So I think I got to the point of “accept it, feel bad for a bit and then move on.”
And happy/adequate/barely tolerable (whichever is appropriate) b-day fellow hexbearino.
If I, as a secret FBI CIA agent at Langley posting on a Ukranian hater/train enjoyer forum, can offer anything, it’s perhaps a different perspective for your mental. There’s a lot about improving your situation that is fun, revitalizing, and rewarding without feeling punitive and grindy. Perhaps you can think about how much room there is to explore and expand in life. Like, if my problem was feeling meek and insecure around others and took a BJJ class, it’s not like I’m resigned to having to be roughed up, it’d be like “Wow, I didn’t realize how fun it would be to treat rough housing as an art!”
Besides, constant growth is for capitalists and even a capitalist knows the money line is all jagged and weird as it climbs to infinity in pursuit of providing value to shareholders. There’s nothing you need to keep in mind in life besides trying your best to get the things you want and loving as hard as you can in every moment. The rest will take care of itself even if you never give it another thought again. I would SHARE a moment by HOLDING you
Let this radicalize you against your enemies and inspire you to find new ways to defeat them. Which in this context means you got plenty of free time to work with local orgs and that networking might lead to something. Or it might not. However you will be getting out at least.
I ate a lot of shit my entire life and my life only gotten better recently. Mostly through timing, luck and also a little bit of force of will. To my credit, none of the good things would have happened if I wasn’t a broken desperate person in the first place.
My life got better in COVID doing the shittiest jobs I’ll ever fucking have hopefully. I was lucky to be in a position where I could just talk to people about getting hired somewhere.
I also grinded to make myself hireable, I had two jobs during this period, I didn’t want to do that forever so the grindset was valuable to me. I dont think it is past stability and grindset types who make it their personality are more than worthless people.
I can commiserate! The last year has been really tough for me as well. Lots of my recent struggles have come from a lot my unresolved internal contradictions. Being in a minor crisis had heightened a lot of those tensions and forced me to work on resolving them. So even though this year has been an objective decrease in my quality of life, I was able/forced to work on some of the key issues that have been hounding me for years.
It might be best to focus on the few positive internal changes you were able to make this year as building the foundation for the rest of your life than it is to focus on the difficult portions. You said you finally found a good therapist, so I imagine you are making positive progress in some spheres of your life! Congratulations on that, a good therapist is a rare thing.
