89 points

Unsure if this counts as a quote but here goes.

If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best

Absolute fucking nonsense.

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The worst part of this quote is that, in the original, she (Marilyn Monroe) actually framed her “worst”:

>I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.

So in the context it sounds more like “here are my flaws - take me or leave me, but you won’t change me”. Which sounds reasonable. But without that context it sounds more like “I’m entitled because I like to pretend that I’m above other people”.

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I’ve seen this before but is that truly the origin? On the Wikipedia page, the quote(s) do not seem to allude to taste or buying preferences at all but rather to customer service. I’ve tried searching but I haven’t seen any primary sources state that the original quote, or intent, was with the inclusion of “in matters of taste”.

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I feel like I’ve never seen or heard of anyone good using that quote. I’m sure it makes some sense if used in genuine good faith. The quote would make sense applied to someone with a disability, for example, by interpreting it more along the lines of having to deal with the person not always being outgoing and maybe even sometimes needing extra help.

But no, I’ve only ever seen shitty (or at least allegedly shitty) people use that quote, to justify their shittiness. The “worst” they refer to is usually bouts of anger or abuse.

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It depends, at their worst are they abusive to their friends, family etc for no good reason? If so, then I’d agree it is nonsense used by abusers. If it’s said by someone who gets treated awfully for having a rough day, week etc and gets treated badly, well then this quote is true.

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65 points

Not see it. But I hear this one.

“it’s always in the last place you look”

No shit Sherlock. Why would I keep looking after I found it?

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74 points

I always thought that was the joke?

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I must say, in retrospect it kind of seems obvious, but this has somehow blown my mind

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What people really mean when they say this is

it’s in the last place you think to look

This again is a misnomer because, not just because you stop looking… but because people find it hard to admit things are lost. All part of the half serious, half ridiculous psuedo science of Findology (disclaimer: my own blog)

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Embarrassingly it took me years to realize what that quote meant. I had always interpreted it to mean that the item is found in an unexpected place. But of course what it really means is that you stop looking once the item is found, therefore that’s the last place you looked 🤦

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And it is a false statement:

sometimes you stop looking without finding anything so in those cases it isn’t in the last place you look

so the clam “It’s always in the last place you look” is obviously false.

otherwise you could say up front “I’m only gonna look in one place!” and then you would HAVE to find it in this last place you look!

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One time I kept looking just to prove that statement wrong. I think I was 4yo.

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“We only use x% of our brain.”

Simply not true as shown since years by neurology

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There are moments where people use more of their bran at once than they usually do.
We call these moments “seizures”.

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As an epileptic married to a monitor tech, we both had a good laugh when I shared this.

Thanks stranger.

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This reminds me of the “you eat X amount of spiders in your sleep every year”. It’s also been debunked so many times and I see it popping up from time to time.

Even more ironic, this was created by some professor (?) to prove that starting fake viral facts was easy or something…

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If you just add the words on average, suddenly it sounds more realistic, because who knows if there’s a guy somewhere sleepwalking in a spider infested place

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Good old Spiders George

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Man, I always thought that one was suspect. If I eat 10 per year and have been alive 40+ years, then surely one of those times I would have woken up.

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If i recall that explanation for the spider fact is itself just made up with no source.

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God no… Please… :(

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Oh, and X% of dust is dead skincells. There is a good Veritasium video on this clai.

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I’ve almost never heard anyone quote that, but I’ve heard numerous people arguing against that statement. So much that I’m wondering it it has mandela-affected people to think it’s a more common misconception than it really is.

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I do remember it being more common back when I was in high school, and also there was a movie which mentioned that which could have helped with that

I also havent heard it being said seriously for years though

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Right, it was the plot for the movie Lucy, where the protagonist increased the brain capacity beyond 10% and upon reaching 100%, she turned into an USB drive. I remember that now.

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I am surprised no one yet has posted the infuriatingly worthless expression of affectless sympathy:

thoughts and prayers

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As a nonnative speaker, the first time I heard the expression was on Bojack Horseman and it confused the hell out of me.

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I agree most of the time, but when I have to sign a sympathy card at work for someone i barely know, what the hell am i supposed to say?

I can’t change the work culture so i just say something generic like that most of the time lol

Btw I’m not even religious

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Thing is if prayers did anything, life would be way better (utopia)

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If prayers were always effective, life would be both better and far worse. You’d be surprised at the horrific things people pray for.

And some of the “good” things we pray for go against what we desperately need.

So you think you can tell heaven from hell?

  • Wish You Were Here - Pink Floyd
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Very true. It’d be so bad

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Religious bs

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Hard men create easy times.

Easy times create soft men.

Soft men create hard times.

Hard times create hard men.

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Man creates dinosaurs

Dinosaurs eat man

Woman inherits the earth

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Which is ironically said the most by soft men who grew up in easy times.

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More cheese => more holes.

More holes => less cheese.

Therefore: More cheese => Less cheese

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actually it ought to be:

More holes => more cheese

and subsequently:

More cheese => more cheese.

Tautology at it’s best

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One thing I never understood about that nonsense quote is why it would be a bad thing even if it were true. Like, who the heck wants people to be “hard” or have hard times? What’s so awful about people having easy times and getting to relax and enjoy life?

It’s also usually used by “back in my day” bigots who are usually using it to complain about people they don’t like and quite frequently LGBT people, because they think that their generation pushing people into the closet was somehow a good thing (or that it meant LGBT people didn’t exist).

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