If stage fright is the fear that one has, when performing
Then inbox fright is the fear/dread I have, when it comes to getting replies or reactions, after I post…
Especially if its related to political content
You never know if you’re going to pulled into a struggle session over something and sent nasty messages, overall
It doesn’t bother me at all. I made a comment, someone replied, there is no need at all to continue the discussion unless I want to.
What’s a struggle session?
Inbox fright is an interesting term. I certainly know and can relate to what you are talking about.
It doesn’t affect me too much I don’t think, but I know the feeling you are talking about. And I wonder how related or intersecting to/with social anxiety it is.
If I’ve posted once in a day, and it’s gone against the grain in a particularly emotive topic discussion - then yeah I can’t say I’ve not said “oh here we fucking go” when I’ve seen the little badge with a number on it that’s not 1, because that’s usually when I’ve posted a YouTube link and the bot picks it up.
In fairness, 70% of it is a valid dissenting opinion to my own and I’ve got the opportunity to learn from someone else’s view, even if I’m still not convinced.
29% of the negative comments are just fannies just picking up a point which isn’t entirely clear and then interprets it in a way that’s logically and factually disingenuous to prove some sort of point, and I can count on one hand in the last thirty years or so the number of times that I’ve rattled someone’s cage to the point where they feel the need to PM me death threats or offer physical violence - by that point I’ve already figured out that they’re either deeply hurting and it’s manifesting itself in that way, or they’re deeply unwell and it’s well outside my skillset to help.
Lemmy overall is much more open to debate than Reddit, and the downvote button is used less of a “disagree” or “fuck you” button than it was on the latter site.
Lemmy overall is much more open to debate than Reddit, and the downvote button is used less of a “disagree” or “fuck you” button than it was on the latter site.>
I really like seeing this here and I hope the trend sticks around. I feel like downvotes should be reserved for posts that one believes are a detriment to other users.
To OP’s question: I have experienced inbox fright, partially because of my very limited experience from posting on reddit and getting nasty replies from people, but also because I don’t like dealing with people arguing in bad faith. It’s exhausting.
What’s in your anonymous inbox can’t hurt you irl. If they’re right, or make an argument that convinces you, you can always say so. If they’re personally hurtful you can block them. Meanwhile reflect that their nasty comments say more to the rest of us about them than you.
Imagine being able to walk into a bar and block anyone obnoxious from interacting with you, wouldn’t that be peaceful…
Edit to add: you’re probably going to get more posted comments from people who don’t experience inbox fright than from those who do. So keep in mind there’s a circle of silent friends supporting you!
In my experience, I’m far less likely to encounter aggressive and unpleasant people in a club or a bar than I am online. I don’t fear social situations, and I even speak and perform regularly in front of large groups, but I get the feeling OP has. When I find an online community where I don’t get the really rabid comments in my inbox, I tend to fixate on it and post only there.
I had this when I was younger, too. Today, I don’t mind if someone posts or messages me nasty stuff, I either ignore it completely or just block this person and move on. There is no use getting frightened because of some internet stranger who decided that today is the day to type random bullshit to someone he doesn’t even know.
