I’m a big white guy living in Korea. I’ve been walking daily the same route about 9 km to get our daughter from school and bring her to afterschool.
Normally I have her little brother in a strawler with me but he nowadays is in a dayvare at that time and I’m getting him afterwards.
Today close to the school a older woman started talking to me and asking me where I left the cute baby I normally have with me, if he is asleep or something. I’ve never seen her before but she seems to have seen me many times walking there with the strawler.
Like they say: “The monkey knows no one, but everyone knows the monkey.”
Took a 6 day vacation with the wife and our only child, a five year old. Long story short, we learned vacationing with an only child is a lot of work and next time to bring her a friend or cousins to occupy her attention so that responsibility isn’t on a parent. Still learning how to vacation!
My daughter was born last week and get released from the hospital Saturday. Really amazing having her home and things are going very well . My 6 year old son will get to see her soon since he is xurr with his mom , really exciting times !
Sometimes your kid is doing something you feel like you should correct. Ask yourself this question.
“Is or may this behavior cause actual harm to themselves or anyone else?”
If the answer is no ask yourself:
“Are you already exhausted?”
Energy is a limited resource, even more so for a parent. You have are responsible for your child well being. That means in a time of actual crisis you need the energy to make the right decisions.
Sometimes (definitely not always) Learn to converse your energy by looking the other way if they are not causing actual problem.
Examples are Playing with food, coloring on papers there not supposed to color on but you didn’t still need and some forms of tantrums.
In this exhausting phase with one of my 4 year olds where he won’t sit down to eat his supper. Every evening meal is a battle where he refuses to eat for a half hour before he finishes half his plate and can get up finally an hour later
We had this at one point too. Turns out they weren’t hungry, so we changed such that the food is there but they choose whether they want to eat. Instead of eating they could bring a piece of paper and do drawing or tell us about their day for a bit while we sit together.
It worked well as it was a lot calmer and the transition to bed wasn’t as big an hour or so later.
Not saying it will work for you, but it helped us.
