tfw you have a few months left in savings and finally get around to looking up disability and it’s all “we’ll get around to it in 6-9 months.”
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Public Displays of Affection?
Personal Digital Assistant?
I scrolled through this https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/PDA and I think pathological demand avoidance means geht be it?
Yep, I had to look it up too.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pathological_Demand_Avoidance
Yes, every day.
The only hopes are:
- getting enough adrenaline from stress to end the cycle (super harmful in the long run)
- completely let it go no matter the importance & hope that randomly without thinking about it and doing something else (perhaps being stuck in the same loop but for another topic) I’ll just be ok to immediately drop everything and just start executing the first step … then it usually goes on ok after that
- get someone to help me, then think about how much of a drag Im being on their personal life, alienate them “for their own good and happiness”, have a copy of them in my mind for years to come hopefully the example will sometimes magically help me with some current issue
getting enough adrenaline from stress to end the cycle (super harmful in the long run)
That’s me! I’m pretty sure my baseline cortisol levels could kill a small animal. Also pretty sure sustaining that level has done permanent damage to my body.
Yes.
And there is absolutely no way a neurotypical person can comprehend that.
That’s why a crisis (a “stressful situations” by normies definitions) calms us down and/or we continue to function normally. And normies just panic. And even when it’s obvious to us what is best to do next, we have to wait for them to calm tf down to even understand what we are saying. But by then the advantage is lost.
(“Oh, so we are going with the plan I proposed and detailed in an email last week but this time is “your” idea?” … :|)
One thing I’ve found that helps “motivate” me to do an undesired task is to find another, more undesirable, task that needs to be done and convincing myself it needs to be done immediately. Then I avoid the new task, and do the original task instead.
60% of the time it works 100% of the time.
Yeah, task switching in general kinda works for me sometimes, it makes no difference to me how (un)desired the task is. Even tasks I enjoy are hard for me.
ultra rare PDA mention just dropped
Stimulants help a lot. Sometimes, I’ll catch myself getting motivated for the wrong task, though. I also have to force myself to eat sometimes. Lastly, I’d have a heart attack if I ever drank coffee.
I’m prescribed methylphenidate lr. It’s a lot less intense than amphetamines.
I went though just about every stimulant on the market about 20 years ago. Most did nothing, but a couple had me going through panic attacks for routine work issues. After two years on the pharma-go-round I’d had enough. I got this far in life rawdogging reality. How bad can it get?
Narrator: Yes.
Did you try again? Bodies change, I was in a group therapy where one guy said that meds didn’t help him when he was a kid, but now 15 years later he tried again and they work. Can be a big help.
Working on it. My current psych seems pretty set on “getting the depression under control” before tackling the ADHD. My dude… it’s all knotted up, Gordian style.
I’m in this meme and I don’t like it.
