I have an unusual name so when I meet new people my brain focuses on their reaction to my name and how they pronounce it, so I completely zone out when they tell me their name. I might remember it for a short time but almost always I forgot their name if I don’t interact with them frequently.

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What is this “remember people’s names” of which you speak?

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I really really focus on their name. I say it to myself several times in my head. I look them in the eyes…

…and then they ask me what my name is because I was so hyper focused on theirs that I forgot to introduce myself. And then I forget their name due to my embarrassment…

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Honestly I dont for the most part. It takes many meetings for me and I have to specifically make a point to say their name out loud to them. Ive also found doing a doddle of the person helps me remember the face (but i have some level of face blindness so this may not be necessary)

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Yeah, this has caused many awkward moments, especially at work. Saying their name to them out loud is a good idea, I’ll try that!

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I worked at my last job for 8 months. When I left there were still four people who I didn’t know which was which. I knew what the four names were, because they were on the schedule, but I never worked with those four, so I still have no clue which face goes with which name, lol.

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Use it 2-3 times in the first conversation. Hi name, bye name and maybe something in between. As long as you have enough time and it’s natural so you don’t come off as a lunatic.

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It’s not even a matter of remembering for me. People I have known for years whose name I did not forget… yeah, my brain will just decide nope, today we don’t know their name. It’s so dumb.

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I forget even important names, and people are shocked when they see I can’t tell them who X is, and I have to come up with some excuse as to why I couldn’t say it 🫣

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I don’t even know my doctor’s name 😅

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Happened to me at the dentist and it was so embarrassing.

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