Everyone knows relationships are hard work. Everyone knows that relationships hit roadblocks and whatever the fuck else. Fucking why. What’s the point? Be with a person that you mostly tolerate most of the days that you exist? And even then, they still might betray you in a horrible way. I’ve dealt with a lot of pain and stress and loss in my life, and when the happy shit gets sour, I just don’t fucking get it. Why not just live my life fucking off and dying eventually.
I mean, you may have stumbled upon the answer yourself. Have you considered that you might just be happier alone? There are ways to have your sexual needs met without having to pair up with someone forever.
As for what the point is, that’s something that everyone has to figure out for themselves. Everybody is different and no two relationships are the same. You can keep trying and maybe get the results you are hoping for, but it takes effort and a genuine desire to not just make a connection but to keep it as well.
My suggestion? Take a break from dating for a bit. Just delete the apps and don’t even think about courtship at all. Live your best single life for a year and see how you feel. If you decide that maybe you want to try again, good. If you figure you are better of not bothering, then that’s fine too.
It is true that relationships require work, but they are worth it. It just depends on the choices you make. In the end, everything is a decision. Starting with the partner you want to share your life with and ending with the course of the relationship. We may not realise it at the time, but that’s the way it is. If you love someone, you have to make an effort to be with them.
A relationship isn’t all honey, feelings are complicated and sometimes you have to put things into perspective. But if you find a great partner and a healthy relationship, you’ll see that everything will fall into place.
A toxic relationship can be more intriguing than a healthy one at times. The last one may seem boring. So it all depends on the choices you make.
If you like being alone, that’s fine, but don’t lie to yourself. I did the same thing when I was younger. I believed that I didn’t require anyone or that I didn’t feel the way I was supposed to, but I was wrong.
Ultimately, most of us desire to have someone to come home to. It’s just up to you whether you choose a partner who will bring you peace or problems.
Life is mostly shit, but with moments of happiness. Sharing it with someone adds more shit to both of you, but also more moments of happiness.
Though the ratio differs from person to person, overall there is a net gain of happiness having someone to share your life with.
I think its just individual taste. My wife and I both have had enough problems in life, both apart and together, that we are looking to just try and keep things as good as possible and not make unnecessarily problems for ourselves. As such we like being together over being with someone who is not like this and we are stronger together than we are alone. The term mostly tolerate I guess could work but I think it more like how cats like to be content.