I’m glad lemmy’s fetching seems to be better: once a community is on your instance its there and you get everything except stuff from servers you’ve defederated with.

I’ve been running my own single user instance since I think 2021 (I think I have 4 active users now). It’s worked out very well for me.

The key thing that I found was I had to go out and find people to add. There are existing lists of people, and I also lucked out that at the same time I joined the fediverse, one comedian I like happened to open up an instance which brought a whole bunch of users who were on my level, and once that started then I was able to add all kinds of people from all kinds of different instances.

It was much more upfront work, but eventually my feed was a whole lot of fun and you don’t need to follow many people to have a feed too fast to even follow

For me running my self-hosted server has been a pain. It took me a while to start getting content, adding relays and so, and still everything feels “dead”, with no replies or favorites anywhere.

On top of that it was constantly depleting my machine resources. Yes, it is a small machine but it is a one person server… Today the containers are stopped and the url returns a 503 error and still get dozens of request per second.

I was so sick of it that when joining Lemmy I just created an account in the biggest server I could find.

seems like the main complaints are ‘im a single person who now requires multi-user resources for a multi-user piece of software’.

isnt that kinda how it works?