I don’t believe it’s creepy for two consenting adults with a large age gap to date. If a 25 year old woman dates a 50 year old man, I don’t think it’s creepy. It’s none of my business. I don’t judge them.

A man who dates younger women is called “creepy.” A woman who dates younger men is called a cougar. Leonardo DiCaprio was judged harshly for dating a 19 year old woman. Most older women are not judged for dating younger men.

Sometimes it’s hard to find a partner of the same age. For example, if a man divorces at 50, it would be hard to find a 50 year old woman. He would have to date someone younger.

The double standard is that men get judged harshly. Society has to change it’s attitude.

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They are adults. They can date who they want. It’s not creepy or wrong. People should stay out of the private business of other adults. If it makes the couple happy, more power to them, I say.

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For example, if a man divorces at 50, it would be hard to find a 50 year old woman.

Why? Do women tend to die at 49?

Obviously 50 year olds are in the dating pool. The man is one of them.

Women tend to live longer, right? Especially when they’re unmarried, so you’d think it’d be even easier for a divorced 50 year old to find an older partner.

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I believe it’s important to avoid a blanket judgment when it comes to these cases, as labeling all of them as creepy oversimplifies the situation. Each case should be considered individually.

For instance, if a man is drawn to a much younger woman solely due to her age, that does raise concerns. Similarly, if he’s pursuing younger women for the sake of exerting control, that’s undeniably unsettling.

On the other hand, if a man genuinely values a woman’s personality, appreciates her qualities, and they share a mutual affection, there shouldn’t be an issue. Assuming that a woman is being exploited solely due to a significant age difference undermines her intellectual capabilities.

It’s vital not to rush to judgment without the full context.

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Yes.

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The law of “does it seem creepy” is easy to understand.

It’s 1/2 your age plus 7.

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Invented by whom and agreed upon with which consensus? The reddit consensus?

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Weird post, but even weirder replies from you OP. You seem to have a direct connection to this subject and I’m leaning towards the idea that you’ve been called a creep a few times.

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What’s weird about this post? I’m pointing out the double standards.

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I have seen way more judgement about women dating younger men, even just a few years younger.

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Really? I haven’t noticed that on social media.

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I’m only 32. Never been called creepy, my friend.

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