There’re better words to use in any situation.
To make the point more clear. As much as people tend to use it in the way they do for words such as ‘like’.
I mean people will just say f you, instead of thinking of a witty insult or express an emotion with more expression.
For example, say you want to express that a person is fat, which one is a more cutting way to tell someone they’re fat:
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“You’re a fat-f**k.”
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“Don’t bother trying to stand up. I know you haven’t done that in years.”
One more thing, As much as there is a time and place you don’t curse, it’s not a matter of “appropriateness” to me; what matters more is the impact of what’s said. I hope my example showcases that.
One last thing, - cause I just starting to realise this matter more to people than I thought it would (nothing wrong with that of course) - cursing doesn’t necessarily subtract from a remark as if it’s a negative number in a math problem, it’s just redundant for speaking (more often than not).
Southsamurai©sh.itjust.works gives a good example of cursing is bland as apposed to just using your brain.
Someone saying “I’m tired of this fucking rain” is more boring than someone saying “I really wish thor would give us a warning before bukkakeing the world”.
I just realise this will work as a post in a unpopular opinion space if that exist, lol.
Cursing is an art, and adds color to otherwise bland sentences and communication. Curse words emphasize tone, inflection, emotion.
If you’re not very good at cursing, maybe you should fuckin’ practice more.
In what way does it add emotion? I’ve heard people say “f you” to mean all different kinds of emotions. I find it hard to believe that saying “I’m f-ing sad” is more emotional than taking time to think it though and get something such as this “I think losing a family member would hurt less than what I’m feeling right now.”
“I haven’t eaten in 4 hours and 41 minutes and now long for a sandwich with cheese, tomatoes and lettuce” also gets more info across than saying “I’m hungry”, yet people keep using the latter.
Scientific studies have shown that curse words relieve physical pain better than any alternatives.
So there are some situations where anything else is an objectively worse option.
ETA: I’m willing to bet the reason this is being downvoted is due to the holier-than-thou attitude you’re copping, OP. It’s also something of a classist-coded cliché to claim that people who curse lack vocabulary, intelligence, education, or creativity. This is, of course counter to the fact that studies have shown that people with higher intelligence are more likely to use salty language.
Then, to curse is to show that you’re a wimp.
Anti-cursing for the win, baby.
/s
And this is called not understanding a joke.
Guess it needed the /s then?
I guess don’t know how to break it to you that saying “f you” is not creative without being on a high horse then.
Also, speaking of cope. To say that a person using curse words instead of a witty remark is somehow smart cause smart people use curse words doesn’t sound right but I don’t how else to interpret the ETA you made.
Much of the time communication isn’t about being creative or coming off smart. It’s about effectively conveying meaning with the tools you have. Sometimes that means simple, crude language is more effective at conveying something than all the wit in the world.
So when I’m in a situation that calls for its use, I don’t care that “fuck off” is a dime-a-dozen phrase that doesn’t make sense. It’s never misunderstood, it’s cathartic to say, and I don’t need to think on the spot to figure out something more eloquent - my mind is on, y’know, who or what needs to fuck off instead.
Ok, I understand what you’re saying, saying “f you” is faster & easier.
2 (now 3) points I want to make:
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I getting this sense that instead of speaking to someone, it’s to let off steam. As you put it, “it’s cathartic to say.” I find that telling of a weak character to need to blow off steam because of a conversation they’re having.
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Since cursing usally indicates aggression, I can’t help but think if you are short on time then making people feel aggression is not the smart thing to-do.
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Cursing is just as impercise as using wit. I don’t know how it helps other than maybe show rage in a spit-second responce, but people have said “f you” in different kinds of context for different kinds of affects. At that point intead of “f you”, you can say “leave if you going to say such trash.” You could be more direct than using some vague swear word.
I guess don’t know how to break it to you that saying “f you” is not creative without being on a high horse then.
I give you a decent counterargument with some bonus alliteration and all you can muster is a strawman?
Also, speaking of cope. To say that a person using curse words instead of a witty remark is somehow smart cause smart people use curse words doesn’t sound right but I don’t how else to interpret the ETA you made.
You’ve reversed cause and effect here. I didn’t say that all people who curse are smart. I said smart people curse.
You’ve argued from a cliché and from a strawman misrepresentation of my original point. I hope someday you look back and cringe at your small-minded pretentiousness in this thread.
For the 1st point, all I read is that smart people curse, & I’m on a high-horse for pointing out cursing isn’t that creative.
You don’t seem to refute that cursing isn’t super creative, so I fail to see the counter argument here.
And if you going to say that I’m condescending for what was stated, then guilty as charge, I guess.
For the sencond point, read again what you wrote me. I see “smart people are more likely to use curse words.”
That doesn’t state when nor to what degree do they curse.
Also my point is that there’s better words to use then swear words, I fail to see how it’s suppose to matter that smart people use swear words.
Again I ask, does it make the swear word more intellient because someone smart says it as oppose to a witty remark?
The best speakers tend to not use them if we’re going to bring who says what in this.
3rd point, clichés exist for a reason. I hope that after you let out the steam (probably by cursing), you can see how - even in your rage - you thought of insults instead of cursing. Would hate to think it would show you as lacking brain power than the smart people cursing away somewhere.
I agree that cursing is often used as a replacement for “um”. But you ever really appreciate someone who knows how and when to curse, with intention and as an infliction? It’s a joy to behold.
Maybe? I find more joy in a clever remark then a person saying the same 7 or so words in a - what seems to be random - order.
You’re talking about a different issue. It just happens to feature a lot of cursing. But cursing itself does not make a remark less clever.
Maybe I miswrote it. I mean that choosing from a wheel the 1 out of 7 words to use, isn’t as clever as thinking of an insult that stings. I agree that cursing doesn’t take away, it just isn’t needed.
What I’m seeing here is someone who REALLY likes witty quips, but is very upset that nobody else appreciates them.
I’m with you, buddy. None of my snappy responses ever convinced a bully that I was worthy of respect, but his constant repetition of movie quotes always got a chuckle from his cronies.
Smart people know big words, but smarter people know when to use them. Making an impression on others isn’t about proving that you have higher value than someone else, it’s about proving that you are one of them. Reminding people that you’re different from them pushes you away.
Or, I might just be projecting shit I’ve been through. Maybe it’s useful to someone.
Swears are a sledge hammer. Many tasks don’t require a sledgehammer. But sometimes you need a sledgehammer.
