In day-to-day life and maybe even in family situations?
Dirty Laundry by Richard Pink, Roxanne Emery. Rox has ADHD and Richard is neurotypical. The book has both their perspectives and how they meet challenges together from a place of understanding the view point of the other person being different from their own.
Unmasking Autism, it’s on libgen
Oh sorry didn’t see the community, could be irrelevant.
How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe is the best I’ve seen so far. It has sections geared towards neurotypical people. Her YouTube channel is pretty good too.
My wife bought me ADHD is Awesome by Kim and Penn Holderness. It does a good job of describing how Penn’s brain works differently and how he and his wife have learned to accommodate it successfully.
Side note, it’s tough for me to sit down and read so I’m slowly making my way through it to learn how to best manage myself. But from what I’ve read so far, I’ve had many AHA moments I’ve shared with my family or “this is me!”
My wife preordered it for me but I still haven’t read it. I actually used to work with Kim (not closely) at a TV station and Penn worked at a different station in the market. I had no idea they were married until their first video went viral (she used a different last name professionally). I was glad to see them on The Amazing Race and that was the first time I’d heard of hyperfocus, in retrospect the first hint to me about my ADHD.
