How insecure can you be? Everyone was ordering beers but I didn’t feel like drinken, so I ordered tea. I guess my masculinity is in shambles right now.
Guys, drink whatever you want.
If you ever just want to skip a potential interaction, tell them you’re the designated driver. You also might get your nonalcoholic beverage of choice on the house.
You can also simply say, “I have to drive.” Assuming you drove yourself. I rarely drink, so I use that one a lot as well.
I didn’t know they served mint tea at bars.
I order whatever drink I want, too, including non alcoholic drinks like tea. Sometimes a hot chocolate. One thing that pisses me right off is having to wait for it. I’m patient. So I don’t mind waiting for it. But when I’m left waiting because I’ve ordered a non-alcoholic not-Diet Coke … 😡. It happens all the time. People who order after me will take priority if they order an alcoholic drink. Sometimes I’ve seen the barkeep actively look for someone else to serve rather than make my drink when I ask for it. It arrives eventually.
Real men forge their own path, never caring what those around them think.
“Ok, one mint tea please”
No not like that
For real. I’m 6’2 and work out 4 times a week. Even then some guys think you’re not men enough if you don’t tick all their silly boxes.ust be a miserable life.
Edit: not that I think those measurements are manly either. The only qualification for being manly is identifying as one.
Stuff like what you’ve posted about others expectations and their arbitrary boxes really exemplifies how people use gender roles to seek some sort of self validation. It’s funny how if you ask someone who cares deeply about their male identity what being a “man” is, it always conveniently aligns exactly with themselves, no need for self adjustment
Real men people forge their own path, never caring what those around them think.
“Ok, one mint tea please”
No not like that
FTFY
Sure, sorry if the tone wasn’t clear on my original post, it was made mocking people who think like that, people like the ones laughing at the tea in the first place. I personally have no interest in prescriptive gender or personhood definitions
“Id like a rum and coke without the rum, thanks” - Me who is allergic to alcohol.