I feel that Discord-like platforms can be useful sometimes, especially if you want to have a conversation in real-time.

I run a sissy Discord that’s intended for more intellectual discussions, and I’d be happy to link it to /c/sissy to drive activity. However, I also totally understand if it would be better to create a whole new server, or (better yet) use an open-source alternative to Discord. After all, decentralization is important no matter what platform you’re using!

What do you sissies think~?

Addendum: I think a Matrix/Element room would be best, but in the interim I’ve set up an IRC channel, #sissy_discussion on Rizon. Below is a link to a web client, everyone is welcome to join!

https://client01.chat.mibbit.com/?server=irc.rizon.net&channel=%23sissy_discussion

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I think Matrix is what you’re after if you want a discord equivalent to Lemmy.

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Agreed! Matrix would be great.

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I was thinking about Matrix too! I was also considering going back to old-school IRC, or maybe using a P2P platform to cut out all reliance on servers.

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I’d kinda love to see IRC get a 21st century makeover. I like it’s simplicity, but it is missing some things that are just too useful to give up.

The simple ability to be offline and then fire up your discord or matrix client and not have missed out on any conversation, whereas with IRC if you go offline and discussion or messages during that time are lost to you. But I miss the IRC vibe.

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I used to run a Rizon IRC server before Discord came about - #sissyology. I’d love to restart it again.

I think the way I dealt with the issues were a combination of scheduling chats at certain times, as well as keeping an app running in the background on my phone so I didn’t miss out on chatting.

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would love to, even setup a burner account, but i´m not entirely sure of the platform privacy

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I’m considering alternative options as well! I already have a Discord and I want to branch out just in case the platform goes full Reddit.

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i’ve reconsider discord, recently due the integration with sony they changed the privacy policies, saving data that could include hardware id, ip address, uploaded medias and chats. This is a no go for me, i don’t mind sharing my sissy persona on the internet but i’ll like more privacy.

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I totally agree. At the moment I’m just going to make an IRC channel, but also consider a Matrix/Element server for the future.

I’m currently using #sissy_discussion on Rizon, you’re welcome to join! Here is a webchat client for it:

https://client01.chat.mibbit.com/?server=irc.rizon.net&channel=%23sissy_discussion

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I think some kind of faster feedback loop would be very nice, especially since there don’t seem to be as many people posting here as the lurkers.

I just want to talk to like minded people while plugged and caged, think it would be a big turn on to have other sissies urge me on :)

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I have a kink for being made fun of by other sissies so I feel you there

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Here are my two cents: I’d love more interactions with sissies. I haven’t stopped missing r/sissyology :) but I don’t really want to use any social media site I’m not mostly comfortable with. Discord isn’t owned by a tech giant at the moment. If you have to provide a phone # to register that’s a deal-breaker for me. I probably wouldn’t try Discord tbh. I’d try Fediverse alternatives though. I don’t know that this community is large enough to launch another off of. Compared to the 90-9-1 rule, our key contributors and upvoter #s are low against # of total subscribers. So, I really like your idea, and needs to chat are 100% valid, but I think there might be many implementation challenges. It’s early in the morning though, so maybe I’m being unreasonably pessimistic

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Yeah, I totally get that. Phone number requirements are a deal-breaker for me too. I was able to get a Discord account without registering one, but it can be annoying, and there’s still huge privacy concerns. I really, really want to move past Discord as a platform to something more open and decentralized.

I wonder what could be some ways to drive engagement here. As a mod of /r/sissyology I’ve been considering reaching out to the top posters there and trying to build a new community with higher standards of discourse and on a safer platform than Reddit. Lemmy is a huge step in the right direction, though with my security-conscious mindset I’d love to have one (or multiple!) back-ups to Lemmy as well :P

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Here are some of my thoughts on increasing engagement in this community :). I think more content is the key, and we’re far away from a critical mass of active users that generate enough content so that the community ‘grows itself’. Our two biggest potential sources of subscribers are probably lemmysnfw users not subscribed and r/sissyology subscribees. I can try to post more content. I think I’ll probably look to common sissy topics (e.g., inspiration via a website) and add some of my own perspective. If you can get some people who post on r/sissyology to post here as well, that’d be very efficient. Site registration (not withstanding the captcha-lol) is very easy, so you could us that as a selling point. I know you’ve done surveys in the past. I work in research IRL, and between the two of us we could probably bang out surveys pretty easily (the tough part might be finding a site to host the survey that we’re comfortable with, but that’s a one-off cost). I think these might be a way for us to attract people, because I think people like taking surveys. For a little extra sneakiness, we could link to the survey both from here and r/sissyology, but indicate in the survey that results will be posted here only :P.

My other idea concerns the sidebar. Many, and I don’t blame them, apply their approach to reddit moderating here, where given the differences in # of users, I’m not sure that always translates best. I see in the Modlog that 3 posts have been removed in 2 months. My idea is to reduce the space that the house rules take up in the sidebar and add more sissy resources.

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Should have responded to this earlier, sorry.

Our two biggest potential sources of subscribers are probably lemmysnfw users not subscribed and r/sissyology subscribees.

My hunch is that you’ll primarily want to look outside of Lemmy for new subscribers, since Lemmy only has so many members and it’s possible those who would be interested in sissy topics are already subscribed.

That said, maintaining engagement from those already subscribed will be key to keeping this community active.

I know you’ve done surveys in the past. I work in research IRL, and between the two of us we could probably bang out surveys pretty easily (the tough part might be finding a site to host the survey that we’re comfortable with, but that’s a one-off cost).

I’m planning on doing another large-scale Sissy Survey. I’m doing it with Google Forms, which I’d avoid if I could but I don’t know any decent alternatives.

For a little extra sneakiness, we could link to the survey both from here and r/sissyology, but indicate in the survey that results will be posted here only :P.

That could work!

I might be wrong though, but isn’t Reddit auto-removing posts that mention Lemmy? Or is that a different site?

My idea is to reduce the space that the house rules take up in the sidebar and add more sissy resources.

This could be good!

One way of building up this community would be to establish it as a higher-quality version of the communities on Reddit. People will flock to places that can offer more effective training methods.

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Calm

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