I was talking to a workmate today about how much I love quiche. And I remembered the saying “Real men don’t eat quiche”. And back when I was in denial, before I could come out to anyone, I remember smiling from ear to ear as I would tell people I love quiche, and I guess that means I’m not a real man.

No one else had a clue what I was getting at, but I thought I was funny

What were yours if you had something similar?

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I remember joking at ~16 or 17 about being a lesbian trapped inside a man’s body.

Turns out that was not 100% untrue 😬😅😜

… 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

❤️🧡💛🤍🩷❤️💜

Edit:I’ll note that the first crack in my shell, or realizing it was there at all didn’t happen for another 15 years

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I did the same thing around the same age (or a little older), and it also took me until my 30s to realize it wasn’t actually a joke.

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It is shocking how similar that is to me, years and all

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Łooking at other comments, it seems more common than I would have expected

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Why do you have a fancy L?

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For me it was an astute friend who noted it when I was 20.

We’re still friends and that remains the consensus.

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Are you saying your friend told you that you were a egg and you hadn’t noticed?

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Very much so.

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I was always so proud of my smallish hands/wrists and would always compare them with girl friends and be like “LOOK OUR HANDS ARE ALMOST THE SAME SIZE! 🥰”

Or the time my ex was walking around topless while I was programming and asked how I wasn’t turned on and I grabbed my tits and said I have them too what’s the big deal lmao.

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At a car show, at the booth to pick up my free T-Shirt, I was asked “what car are you?” and I responded “I identify as a Ford Focus”. I get that might sound a bit offensive because of the “one joke” thing but I thought it was a funny response, and I didn’t mean it in an offensive way. That was before my egg cracked anyhow, and the person at the booth got a kick out of it.

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I have never once heard “real men don’t eat quiche” that seems like some really bizarre gatekeeper rules.

I 🩷 quiche too btw

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Interesting! I will have to check it out because I’ve never heard of it. But then again, growing up in a misogynistic, evangelical, smallish town, no one there was reading a book saying their ideas of manliness were stupid. Also I don’t know when I ever first had a quiche.

So was it always more of a joke for you, or did people around you say stuff like that seriously?

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The people around me said it in a “joking but not joking” way. I grew up in a small town in country Australia, but unlike yours, it wasn’t particularly religious. They were conservative, racist, sexist, you name it, and that saying was enough of a thing for me to have heard it many times. I’m guessing, like me, most people didn’t know where the saying came from though

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My friend took me out for my first drink and I think I had a mojito or something fruity and he was like “you know that’s a girl’s drink, right?” I was nervous, but still drank it… after spilling the first one by accident😅
Oh and I did the whole “I’m a lesbian” bit as well.

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